When Your “Normal” Is Not Your Partner’s Normal

Ever find yourself comparing your relationship to those of your friends? Dangerous game people!

Two reasons – firstly comparison is the enemy of joy. Secondly, you actually have no idea what their relationship is really like. You see what they want you to see – just as they see what you want them to see. But ya, we still do it don’t we?!

That’s normal. We are all concerned about what’s normal. Mostly that’s what we’re checking when we compare. And sometimes we check because we’re unsure of what’s “OK”, which is a little different from “normal.” (more…)

Surviving a Separated Christmas

Holding steady at around 40-50% and even higher for subsequent marriages, the stats for divorce and separation are pretty high in the US. It’s the third highest divorce rate in the world. So we...