Last week, I sat and listened as my friend told me about all the fun exercises she’s been doing to get herself pregnant. She and her husband have been trying for at least 5 months now and are starting to get very discouraged. She talked about the schedule, the vitamins, and all the other tricks every professional and doctor can possibly give. Surely you’ve heard at least half of it, if you’re a parent.
Then she talked about some information she received from her doctor about IVF. It raised my eyebrows as I thought about the journey I went through with my husband when we were trying to get pregnant.
I’m here to tell you that it could all be a lot easier than you realize! How? Why? Check this out …
Before you actually decide to have a baby, you probably took every precaution NOT to have one. Whether it’s birth control, the famous “pull out” system, or just plain abstinence, they all prevented you from having a baby. So when you finally decide it’s ok, you almost immediately stress out your own body by worrying about all the things you have to do in order to get pregnant.
My husband and I tried to get pregnant for nearly 7 months. I can still remember him saying, “it’s alright, we’ll just keep trying,” as I cried with disappointment every month I got my period.
We tried everything from herbal teas to staying on a strict schedule and even some mythical old wives tale sex positions that were too weird to be comfortable. Still, nothing worked and frustration just kept building. It wasn’t very long until we both couldn’t even enjoy intimacy. It just felt like a chore that had to be done.
It wasn’t until we had given up on the rules and all the funny concoctions that we realized we had completely forgotten about what matters — our relationship and the love we have for each other. We decided to give ourselves the chance to just enjoy one another without the stress of baby-making. We finally had an opportunity to go all out on our sex life.
A few short weeks later, we were finally pregnant! I remember crying so hard it actually made my head hurt!
Take your pre-baby vitamins
Don’t forget to take your folic acid just as you would normal be taking your multivitamins! Folic acid is believed to help reduce brain and perhaps other defects any baby could potentially have. It’s always better to be safe than sorry, right?
Stay fit and healthy
Let’s face it, there are many more advantages to being fit, pregnant or not, than looking like a couch potato. Someone who works out and are fit isn’t just much more flexible, but are also less likely to have as much pain during pregnancy. It can also help reduce your stress among other things. In other words, the advantages usually outweigh the risks.
There will be moments when you question if all this trying and stress is worth it … believe me, believe the many parents who will say, “being a parent is truly the best feeling in the world!”