Whether it is holiday shopping or a quick run out to the grocery store to grab a container of milk and a loaf of bread, if a young child goes along for the ride, there is always a possibility of a temper tantrum. Here are three easy discipline tricks that really work.
Make a game out of what must be done
Sing a silly song, make funny faces, say the ABC’s in a high/low voice. This works for things like buckling up the seat belt of the car seat (don’t all children hate that), leaving the toy store or putting on a jacket or hat.
Don’t ask, “Do you want to put on your jacket?” or “Shall we put that toy down because we are ready to leave?” Just say, “We are ready to leave and we are putting on our jackets.” Or, “It’s time to leave the store and put the toy back…which shelf are you putting it back on, the top shelf or the bottom shelf?” Always make sure that when you give your child a choice, both choices will lead to the goal you have in mind.
Warn, distract, and then proceed with what needs to be done
Children like to know what the plan is…and they need to realize that what you say goes and that there is no discussion or negotiation. It helps, if possible, to give a warning. For example, when you need to leave the store, give your child a warning in a friendly upbeat tone of voice, “One more hug for mister bear and then we will put him back on his shelf and go and get a drink at the water fountain on our way to the car.” After the hug, help your child put the bear back, scoop him up, head towards the water fountain, singing a song about bears or water or whatever. Or, if you are at the library, you might say, “You can turn the next two pages and then we will take our books to the librarian to check them out.” Again, scoop up your child (if there is any question he disagrees about your plan to leave), and head towards the library checkout. Let your child know you understand how he is feeling, “I bet you wish you could stay in the library all day, but it’s time to check out. You can hold the library card and give it to the librarian.”
One of the hardest things about dealing with preschoolers is that they are easily distracted and often cannot stick with one thing for very long. This distraction is a blessing in disguise, however because no matter what they are involved in: looking at a book, playing with a toy, having a temper tantrum…they can almost always be distracted from it…just turn their attention to something else.