One of the best memories I have as a kid was that Christmas was made the most special, because we didn’t just have family fun and presents to look forward to, but the idea of being rewarded for being good by a man in a red suit.
Santa’s presents were the most special present of all! He knew exactly what we wanted and went to all the trouble of coming into all the little girls’ and boys’ houses because he knew we had all been good!
I can’t remember when I realized Santa wasn’t real, but I know it didn’t hurt as much as people think it would. In fact, I think I was proud to find out that Santa wasn’t real. Proud because I was a big person who could tell the next set of little people all about him. I was a big enough person that I could keep the secret and enjoy seeing my little brothers go through the fun.
Children have such a gift for being able to imagine anything they want that I believe it would be a shame to take that special memory that keeps their imagination more alive than ever. It’s the memory of goodness and cheer. It’s the memory of songs and love. It’s the memory of happiness and togetherness. All the fun memories that could involve Santa.
For many parents, being able to share the story of Santa is as much fun for them as it is for their little one(s). It gives us the chance to be the grownup and share those special moments with our little ones just as our parents did. Being able to see our children’s eyes light up and fill with joy as they wake up and find their gifts from Santa is a gift for parents all on its own.
How to Help Your Child Deal with Santa’s Non-Existence?
Santa himself, can be the greatest gift for a child on Christmas. However, you have to prepare for the moment your child realizes Santa doesn’t really exist. Some children take it quite well, feeling grown up, knowing they have a great secret that only big kids can ever know about.
There are children who may feel more emotional than you expect. Some children who may even feel betrayed and lied to, which of course, you’ve taught them not to do. How do you help your child deal with this reality?
You might start with asking them to express their feelings. Once they’ve let it all out, you might compare the story of Santa to some of their favorite make-believe stories. Once you sense a little comfort in their response, you might want to ease into explaining to them why you didn’t tell them about the reality of Santa. You might share your own stories with Santa.
The important thing is to have your child understand and know just how much fun the story of Santa brought into their lives. Memories are what make us who we are. The more fun and joy we instill in those memories, the more your child will appreciate little bits of life.