Many women are mothers but not all are Supermoms. The Supermoms are an elite group of women who take their roles as mothers very seriously and place it highest in their priorities. The role of “mommy” is their main role.
More often than not, women seek the desired title of Supermom but can’t quite seem to achieve it. Due to the critical nature of women, many really are Supermoms but they just don’t realize it. Being a Supermom isn’t as hard as one may think but it takes perseverance, dedication and patience at a level which surpasses that of an “ordinary” mother.
Here are a few keys for being a successful Supermom:
A mother’s (which also includes the title of “wife” in most cases) mood effects the entire family dynamic. When the mom is in a bad mood, it carries into the child’s mood and as a result, an already frustrating situation will get even worse. Her body language, her tone, her actions all exude what emotions are going on in her head and heart if she isn’t careful. Optimism is contagious. A smile goes a long way.
Encouragement makes a huge difference. Directing the children or family in activities that will produce laughter and a sense of joy are crucial to a healthy, happy home. This isn’t always easy. Mother’s go through things too. The secret is to make sure those “things” are dealt with at the appropriate time and place. That time and place is not usually in front of the children. A helpful tip in maintaining a positive attitude is to exercise regularly, eat healthy and sleep properly. These things will play a key role in helping a mother keep an optimistic outlook.
Properly manage your time
A big mistake that many mothers make is improper time management. Keeping a schedule is healthy for kids. It’s healthy for adults. A routine helps a baby fall asleep quicker. A calendar in a local place like the kitchen helps a mother know what day her high school aged children have practice, games, work. Children need structure and a good way to help keep it balanced is by proper time management. Chaos produces anxiety and a lack of control. Neither is good when dealing with kids. A mother will work more productively when she keeps a good schedule or routine.
Not at all contradicting the previous key, flexibility, or the lack of it, will make or break a mother. Any mother of young children will confess that random disorder can happen at any moment. If a mother has three children under the age of 4, it would be wise for her to allow “flex room” where she gives herself an extra half hour or more to get the kids ready for an outing. In another example, if a mother enjoys indulgences such as getting her nails done but has 4 soccer games in one weekend that her kids will be participating in, she may need to reschedule her nail appointment in order to attend all the games. If a mom knows her 12 year old daughter is having friends over and has prepared a snack, she may need to be flexible as at any given time, one of those friends may have randomly decided that she no longer eats certain foods. Structure is important but so is the ability to bend and change direction if need be.
Be well rounded
Many women lose their personal identities when they become mothers. They feel as though their only part in the world is to produce babies and take care of them. They lose the sense of “self” in the daily grind of taking care of others. It is critical for a mother to have something that she does that is for her enjoyment that provides for her an outlet of self expression. This can be anything from a blog to a book club to a career or perhaps a hobby that she excels at. Having MANY creative skills that a woman can take pride in that benefit her family such as crocheting, cooking well, hosting parties or coaching a team (just for a few examples) will help her reach Supermom status even quicker. It also helps if the mother is constantly learning something new. A stale mind is not a healthy mind.
There are many other keys to becoming a successful Supermom. However, these may be considered higher in the list than others. Keeping a clean house, home schooling children, hosting play dates, charity work, and keeping active are other keys that may assist in reaching Supermom status. However, it is more difficult to meet those if the ones mentioned above have not been fully understood and executed. Be positive. Manage time properly. Be flexible and be well rounded. Achieve these and join the elite group of Supermoms.