Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about my life’s purpose. Yes, motherhood is great, being married is great, yada yada yada … It doesn’t mean I still can’t have friends … Does it?
As a mom, I’ve learned the amazing skills of time management. At the moment, I have 6 days a week to help my family get through their day to day, while finding time to balance my own work-at-home, which I have to admit can be quite difficult at times. So when do I actually have time for friends?
Are you spending enough time with people outside of your immediate circle of family?
Better question is, how do I gain friendships and stay in them with people who can truly relate to the things I’m going through? How do I continue to be a friend to those who have been my friend for years, but no longer really have anything in common with?
Over the years, I’ve realized time I spent with people I don’t actually ever see anymore. In high school, for example, I’ve had quite a few moments I spent messing around, trying to “fit in,” while I jeopardized the future, which is now my present. Had I spent less time trying to figure out how to be completely rebellious, I may actually be in a better position right now.
Don’t get me wrong, because I’m quite thankful for the many wonderful people in my life, but I AM human and can’t help, but wonder what could have been if only I would have done what I should have. 🙂
Sometimes I feel as though I might be going through a midlife crisis, because I’m constantly wondering where time has gone. So lately, I’ve decided to limit my time with the people who actually care about me.
A Start to Friendship Time Management
Having friends are amazing, if you have the right ones. What does that mean, exactly? Well, think about it … do you have people in your life who invest in you as much as you invest in them? Are they there for you during your good and bad times? Are you able to confide in them and feel comfortable enough around them to be yourself? Are your feelings towards each other pretty mutual?
I challenge you to make a list of your friends. Then create a column for each of the questions I just mentioned above. Be completely honest with each checkmark. How many of your friends are left? Now, how many of those friends do you think would be there for you at any given time of the day or night if you absolutely needed them?
Real friendships can be rare and beautiful. They can be a great source of entertainment, have good shoulders to cry on, and be a lovely way to have that much needed wine you may surely need quite often.
Sometimes, just like the love of your life, you can find your most compatible friend at the oddest places. They don’t have to be someone you’ve known for years, because sometimes even those people could be completely wrong for you after you’ve realized you no longer have anything in common with them. Friendships can arise from relationships with other friends or even during your trips to the supermarket.
So if you find that one person you can truly call a “friend,” don’t ever take them for granted. Do what you can to keep your friendship alive, because outside of mommyhood is a life with much more beauty if you’ve got true friends, other than your husband to share them with.