Why Your Multiple Children Are Not My Problem

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I have a 5 year old who’s attending the last week of preschool. He will be going to Kindergarten soon! Wow! It’s making me emotional just thinking about it!

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Is “Class Mom” a Real Thing?

Many classes (especially for young children) nowadays have what they call a “class mom.” It’s a mom who volunteers to organize events for the class in order to help the teachers throughout the year.

This year, the class mom for my son’s class did 2 things: put together a gift card as a gift for the 2 teachers in the class and now she’s putting together a gift card for the teachers for the end of the year.

On Christmas, all the parents received a general email that thanked everyone for the donation towards the gift card. Didn’t see or hear anything more about it.

Months passed and the teacher’s appreciation week was nearly forgotten. So I sent an email out to all the parents reminding them of it. Sadly, the teachers seemed to have been SOL’d this year because of the assumption that the “class mom” was going to take care of things.

Now the end of the year is nearly here for our Preschoolers and again the class mom asks for donations towards a gift. So I sent an email in the nicest way possible, letting her know that I’m going to be getting my own gift together. Of course I couldn’t help it and asked her whatever happened with the Christmas gift, because I wasn’t aware of when she’d ever given it to them. I emailed her about my contribution but never received an email back.

Her response was that she has 4 kids and can’t get to her emails sometimes. So she apologizes, but mentions how rude I was just for asking.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I absolutely admire moms and dads who kick butt at the multiple children thing. I have one child and trying to juggle him with my job, is challenging enough. So I get how much work it can be to have many more to care for, while trying to have a life at the same time.

Here’s to … Just Taking on What You Know You Can Handle!

My beef is that if you’ve already got your hands full, don’t take on something you know you can’t handle and have other people suffer for it.

I have a friend who has 3 girls under the age of six and when she’s got a task to do, you better believe she will give it her 100%. Now, I know everyone is different and we all come across circumstances, but the thing is … she never makes her children other people’s problems.

What I mean by this is that I have heard too many excuses that have to do with … “I have this many children. So I’m sorry if I couldn’t fulfill THAT promise … ”

So things happen and your children are your top priority. I get it, but it doesn’t mean life stops. After being a parent for a while, shouldn’t you be aware of the possibilities of things that could happen? If you know you just can’t commit to something, don’t do it. That’s all.

Just remember how it would feel if the shoes were on the other feet. If you counted on others, you would surely understand whatever happens, but the disappointment would still be there, wouldn’t it?

Parents of multiples — what are your thoughts?