My Non-Parent Girlfriends vs My Parent Girlfriends

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This weekend, I had a fun visit from one of my girlfriends who now lives in Colorado. She’s been a nurse for many years and one of the loveliest, kindest, most generous people I’d ever met. She and my cousin met me for lunch and a good few hours of catching up.

Have you ever had girlfriends that make you feel so comfortable that they actually give you that feeling of being “home in your heart?” That’s exactly how my friend Darla is to me.

My single girlfriends after a couple of mojitos

My single girlfriends after a couple of mojitos

Darla and I have known each other for over 12 years and she has witnessed many major changes in my life. My cousin, Michelle, of course has been my best friend since we were little girls and when the 3 of us are together, laughter just never ends.

Michelle and Darla are my single girlfriends who let me live vicariously through them. I mean, judge me not, although I do love my husband, there are moments when I can honestly say, I need my moments away from home!

I do sometimes think about how my life used to be and wonder how nice it would just be to go to a beach party until all hours of the night and not have to worry about a little person I’ve got to take care of at home. Then I also could only imagine how bored they get when all I have to share is what my son played with today and how mundane my life is.

On most occasions, I do hang out with one of my best friend, Ali, who has 3 kids under the age of 6. Our relationships extend to the many things we have in common, including husbands, kids, and the ups and downs of motherhood, Socal living, and of course wifehood!

My "mom" girlfriends after 2 martinis

My “mom” girlfriends after 2 martinis

Now most of our hangouts involve dinner at home with a bottle of wine, or 2 … with our husbands lingering nearby and us trying to talk over the loud noise as our kids play and scream in the background.

A few weeks ago, we had girls night (at home) with another one of our girlfriends D. The night started out very serious with updates about what the kids are doing, what they’re eating, how they’re development is going … After 2 glasses of martinis each, kids were no longer part of our conversations. Let’s just say … it turned into a whole lotta party fun!

I love my two sets of girlfriends. Though I would never trade mine, I love that I could get a glimpse of single life and remember how it used to feel to hang out with my single girlfriends. Now that I’m a mom and wife, I also love my new set of friends who can relate to the many new chapters of my life.

I’d love to hear your stories about your two sets of girlfriends (if you’ve got them). How do they compare?

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