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5 Myths About Fatherhood

Traditional parental roles are shifting and nowadays it’s not uncommon to find dads opting to stay home and look after kids. Women, on the other hand, are increasingly becoming primary breadwinners in their families.

What baffles me is that society still clings to myths and societal expressions of fatherhood that should have been chucked ages ago. The fact that some of these misconceptions are firmly anchored in gender-based stereotypes only makes it worse.

So today I decided to shed some light on 5 myths about fathers and fatherhood that we really should stop propagating. to summarize, these myths about dads are:

  1. Newborns don’t really need their dads
  2. Okay, so your partner’s intense connection with the newborn, especially when breastfeeding, can often leave you feeling like the third wheel. But this doesn’t mean that your baby doesn’t need you.

    Dads can bond with a newborn in other ways like holding, rocking or cooing to them, giving them baths and even helping to feed the baby if your partner expresses milk or if you’ve decided to supplement with formula. Find your own little ways to be part of your baby’s life from day one.

  3. Dads don’t bond with their kids like moms do
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    This myth is not only wrong but also harmful to dads who might have a few fears about their fatherhood roles as it is. In fact, it could keep them from even wanting to do their rightful duty as a father to care for his child.

    There’s this tendency to assume that women naturally possess maternal instincts while men have to work hard at being good fathers. Take heart men! Research shows that men also undergo hormonal changes before and after their kids are born. There’s a noticeable drop in testosterone that’s possibly meant to make them more nurturing. So fathers worry not- nature is rooting for you.

  5. Fathers don’t feel as much pressure as women
  6. Women are given grief for prioritizing work over family and this has received a lot of attention. Unfortunately, few people realize that men are under pressure for the opposite reason. Men with kids report feeling pressured to be the primary family providers.

    Many dads would love to spend as much time as they could with their kids, but many of them often face stigma in the workplace. In fact, some of them are forced to face the fact that they could potentially face poor performance evaluations and promotions because of it.

  7. Fathers are the disciplinarians in the family
  8. Just wait until your dad gets home!” We’ve all heard the cliché that fathers are more suited to the disciplinarian role than mothers. Maybe this has to do with the fact that men generally have a direct and firmer approach to discipline.

    Fathers are NOT always the disciplinarians. Therefore, this myth is false. Kids often become most familiar with the discipline tactics of the parent who spends the most time with them. So it’s not uncommon for them to defy that parent. Family dynamics are different and both partners should feel capable of disciplining their kids when the need arises.

  9. Fathers are dispensable
  10. Of all the myths and misconceptions I’ve come across, this is perhaps the most harmful. A father’s role is an equally important role in their kids’ lives as mothers. Research shows that children who grow up with involved, attentive and supportive fathers tend to have better cognitive, social and language skills than those who don’t. They also have higher self-confidence and self-esteem levels and tend to be better at forming relationships with others.

So to all fathers out there- know that you have an important place in your families. Fathers matter and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!

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Tyler Jacobson

Tyler Jacobson is a father, husband, and writer, with experience as a content writer and outreach coordinator for HelpYourTeenNow. Tyler has offered honest advice and humor to struggling parents and teens. Tyler has researched and written on education problems, disorders, the world of social media, addiction, and pressing issues with raising a teen today. Follow Tyler on:
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  • Great post..I have a friend who became a father and he does well at bonding with his new born. I’m glad you went into detail about the myths associated with fathers and newborns!

  • I totally agree with your article. My husband definitely became more mushy, sensitive and overall more loving lol after the birth of our daughter. I did not realize the pressure piece as men seem to have it all under control…no worries, right?

  • Yes! fathers are needed… I’m divorced (like pretty much everyone else… only kidding~kind of… there are a lot of us unfortunately).
    Anyway, I have two kids and their dad stopped showing up on numerous occasions UNTIL my daughters teacher showed us some of her work and drawings and said she was concerned with her emotional well being… After he saw the effects it had on her he’s never missed another day of his without rescheduling… I’m flexible as can be, if they want to go see their dad and he’s available I make it happen. Children NEED and WANT to bond with both parents. As well as both parents NEED and WANT to bond with their kids.
    As for the other things you’ve mentioned, of course dad’s feel pressure too. We are all human and feel and need similar things/feelings, that is not bias to gender, that’s more of a person to person bases!

  • This is a great post, it’s important to dispel the rumours that go around. Fathers are so important in a babys life!

  • Indeed these are myths. My husband is my helpmate, as in does half of the things in the house and my daughters love him to bits. He has been involved with parenting them even since they were in the womb! 😀 So blessed to have him as my husband and the father of my children.

  • Fathers are SO needed for newborns! If I was a mother, I’d be handing the kid off as much as I could to get a break lol. While my dad was the stereotypical disciplinarian, my mom did her share as well. It does take a village to raise kids!

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