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Fear of Missing out (FOMO) Happens in Adulthood Too!

Have you ever woken up, grabbed your phone and immediately found yourself surfing through Facebook? An hour or so later, you realize you just spent an hour still in bed when you could have done something much more productive, like make breakfast or run (yeah right) and perhaps even start some laundry?

What is FOMO?

Facebook has not only become a big waste of time, but it’s also a big contributor of the term “Fear of Missing Out,” also known as FOMO. People often associate FOMO with teens, but believe it or not, adults go through it just as much as teens.

If you’re part of the Millennial age group or older, you probably remember the days when you had to go home to find out if you received a phone call from a friend or anyone. How simple were the times when you could just go about your day and not have to worry about posting anything online just to keep up with trying to sound a little less boring.

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The Negative Effects of FOMO

Many people now spend a lot of time and money making their lives look more interesting than it really is. Do you notice the amount of food pictures there are on Facebook or Instagram or elsewhere? Just look around the next time you go to a restaurant. I bet you’ll catch someone taking pictures of their food as soon as it’s served. Perhaps you’ll even notice someone yell, “NO! Don’t touch it! I’m about to take pictures!”

The magic moments

I was at Legoland a few weeks ago having “mommy and me” time with my 6 year old when we decided it was time to sit down and enjoy a little treat. We were both really tired and just needed a snack. We were about to sit down when I noticed a mom yelling at her son who was about to lick a tall ice cream fully top with beautiful sprinkles.

“Just hold it steady so I can take a picture!” It was really hot outside and the boy, who looked like he was about my son’s age was not at all happy. He was whining as his mom took a long time to take the perfect shot.

Great moments are often reduced to grief because the picture moment was missed. I mean, come on! What if our peers find it to be really interesting and something they thought was truly interesting about you? What if our post is so amazing that it actually becomes viral worthy? What if …

The cost

Of course, most of us know that 90% of the posts we see only deserve half a second of our attention. What we may NOT know is how much time, effort and sometimes money it took to take that particular shot or post.

Money? That’s right! Think about all the special gatherings and dinners you’re having to go to just to compete with Bob. Bob and his girlfriend seem to go out every night and just appear to have the best relationship in the world! It makes you so jealous because your relationship just isn’t as exciting!

So just to look more interesting, you’re overexceeding your budget just so you could post pictures on social media. You join events, dine out more, and have a more active lifestyle, all costing much more than you can afford.

Here Are Very 2 Important Tips to Consider to Help Overcome FOMO

I’ve witnessed many negative effects of FOMO. In fact I’ve seen individuals get completely messed up and sometimes exhibit narcissistic behaviors because of it. Abnormal behaviors that originate from unhappiness to being completely self-absorbed are the most common outcome of FOMO.

There are no medical solutions to overcoming FOMO, but there are things you can do to keep your life in check so that you don’t miss important moments or have less fulfilled lives or even bankrupt, because your

Give importance to the following in order to have a life less FOMO:

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  • Cultivate a More Gratifying Lifestyle:
  • There are so many things to be grateful for. The air we breathe, the people who love us and those we love back, the ability to have control of all of our senses … there are so many things we could truly appreciate much more fully if we weren’t trouble with trying to impress others along the way, simply because of FOMO.

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  • Focus on Yourself:
  • We can focus more on ourselves when we forget about doing things for FOMO. Learn to say “no” to things that could overwhelm you. Slow down and enjoy life.

Consider the points stated in this article and watch your stress level and worries lessen. Your body will thank you and so will the people most important to you.

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop is the proud mommy to little Oliver and wife to hubby. She is a resident of Laguna Beach and a big player in the web's large social media circle.

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  • These tips are great. Focusing on yourself is so important, but it’s something nobody teaches us (as mothers). Even our moms, well at least mine, didn’t teach me that as a mother we HAVE to put ourselves first sometimes. If not, we’re going to be frustrated, exhausted, and burnt out.

    • Yes, you’re absolutely right, but I also think taking care of our family can be part of taking care of ourselves. I find that it also gives me peace of mind and comfort to know I’ve made my son and my husband happy, even if it does make me tired. I think it’s just important to find a way to feel a little less guilty about doing our own thing. Some people might think it selfish but in reality, it’s good for everyone.

  • Yes, FOMO is definitely a real thing that happens to adults too. I think it’s important to try to self-reflect on a regular basis and evaluate one’s priorities and values. As parents, I think we need to try to livein the moment and celebrate the small milestones and not stress over the minute details.

  • While I don’t think I have FOMO on a grand scale (honestly, I don’t go out much and don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything, lol), I think all bloggers have it on a different scale: fear of missing out on that perfect picture or perfect viral opportunity. My dog does something funny and I kick myself for not having the camera permanently glued to my eyeballs rather than just laughing at her antics. My mom baked an apple pie last night and my first thought was “I should have taken pictures before she cut it!” Stuff like that. But I don’t let it get to me beyond a “oh well, I’ll get the next shot.” I decided a few years ago that I wanted to view life with my eyes, not through a camera lens.

    • Ah! I do know that feeling! My friend loves taking pictures and every time we go out, she spends half the time taking them, which takes away from the actual memories we have because some of the pictures are made up. Not really “memory worthy.”

  • FOMO is real. I may have fallen into its grip. Sometimes, you just got to live IN the moment. Not for anyone else. Just for yourself. Your children are watching. In a time where everything is online, it’s hard not to compare ourselves, but your article points out the truth. The time to take the perfect shot—that’s not enjoying the moment, it’s creating unrealistic expectations. I tell my children…dare to be ordinary and extraordinary things happen! Thank you for the reminder.

  • This is such a good reminder even if you’re not a parent. You don’t have to post everything online and it’s really going to make life easier for you! No more finding the right angles to take the perfect shot or anything like that just to impress others that don’t really care about you.

  • Sigh. As I sit here at 2 am having just received this email while scrolling Instagram… Thanks for the timely article. I suppose I could do with some self reflection, maybe sleep tight about now.