Have you ever woken up, grabbed your phone and immediately found yourself surfing through Facebook? An hour or so later, you realize you just spent an hour still in bed when you could have done something much more productive, like make breakfast or run (yeah right) and perhaps even start some laundry?
What is FOMO?
Facebook has not only become a big waste of time, but it’s also a big contributor of the term “Fear of Missing Out,” also known as FOMO. People often associate FOMO with teens, but believe it or not, adults go through it just as much as teens.
If you’re part of the Millennial age group or older, you probably remember the days when you had to go home to find out if you received a phone call from a friend or anyone. How simple were the times when you could just go about your day and not have to worry about posting anything online just to keep up with trying to sound a little less boring.
The Negative Effects of FOMO
Many people now spend a lot of time and money making their lives look more interesting than it really is. Do you notice the amount of food pictures there are on Facebook or Instagram or elsewhere? Just look around the next time you go to a restaurant. I bet you’ll catch someone taking pictures of their food as soon as it’s served. Perhaps you’ll even notice someone yell, “NO! Don’t touch it! I’m about to take pictures!”
The magic moments
I was at Legoland a few weeks ago having “mommy and me” time with my 6 year old when we decided it was time to sit down and enjoy a little treat. We were both really tired and just needed a snack. We were about to sit down when I noticed a mom yelling at her son who was about to lick a tall ice cream fully top with beautiful sprinkles.
“Just hold it steady so I can take a picture!” It was really hot outside and the boy, who looked like he was about my son’s age was not at all happy. He was whining as his mom took a long time to take the perfect shot.
Great moments are often reduced to grief because the picture moment was missed. I mean, come on! What if our peers find it to be really interesting and something they thought was truly interesting about you? What if our post is so amazing that it actually becomes viral worthy? What if …
Of course, most of us know that 90% of the posts we see only deserve half a second of our attention. What we may NOT know is how much time, effort and sometimes money it took to take that particular shot or post.
Money? That’s right! Think about all the special gatherings and dinners you’re having to go to just to compete with Bob. Bob and his girlfriend seem to go out every night and just appear to have the best relationship in the world! It makes you so jealous because your relationship just isn’t as exciting!
So just to look more interesting, you’re overexceeding your budget just so you could post pictures on social media. You join events, dine out more, and have a more active lifestyle, all costing much more than you can afford.
Here Are Very 2 Important Tips to Consider to Help Overcome FOMO
I’ve witnessed many negative effects of FOMO. In fact I’ve seen individuals get completely messed up and sometimes exhibit narcissistic behaviors because of it. Abnormal behaviors that originate from unhappiness to being completely self-absorbed are the most common outcome of FOMO.
There are no medical solutions to overcoming FOMO, but there are things you can do to keep your life in check so that you don’t miss important moments or have less fulfilled lives or even bankrupt, because your
Give importance to the following in order to have a life less FOMO:
- Cultivate a More Gratifying Lifestyle:
- Focus on Yourself:
There are so many things to be grateful for. The air we breathe, the people who love us and those we love back, the ability to have control of all of our senses … there are so many things we could truly appreciate much more fully if we weren’t trouble with trying to impress others along the way, simply because of FOMO.
We can focus more on ourselves when we forget about doing things for FOMO. Learn to say “no” to things that could overwhelm you. Slow down and enjoy life.
Consider the points stated in this article and watch your stress level and worries lessen. Your body will thank you and so will the people most important to you.