I have recently just finished watching the TV show, Parenthood. Sadly, the show stopped after the 6th season, but ended just perfectly. It is a very beautiful, heartwarming show about family, love, relationships, and just life in general.
The show affected me in many ways. It helped me understand the importance of truly forgiving someone and how insignificant some of my grievances are compared to the bigger picture — that life really is short!
I love my family, my mom, my dad, my brothers, and all the people in my life who matter a lot to me. Over the years, I’ve held grudges and strong feelings over many things, including how I felt my parents wronged me because they left me in the Philippines as a child or that I wasn’t treated the same as my brothers.
How often do you reflect on the positive vs the negative moments in your life?
As I was doing some cleaning this weekend, I came across a paycheck I was getting from my parents’ company. My mom employed me after I’d lost my job in 2007. I wasn’t qualified for anything in the industry they were in, but she created a position for me to learn and work.
I thought about the other sacrifices my parents made over the years. As much as I hated a lot of their parenting styles, I think about what they’ve had to go through and how much time has already passed since I lived with them.
I remember my parents when I was a kid and feel sad when I think they’re already in their 60’s and probably only have a few years left with us. Then somehow I can’t help, but think about my parents being younger than me when I was in grade school misbehaving and doing things I know I shouldn’t have been doing.
I think about the many times I yelled at my parents for things I feel silly about now. There were so many times in my life when I didn’t talk to them and hurt their feelings in very harsh ways.
Now, all I want to do is tell them how much I love them. I can feel the times slipping so quickly, especially as I realize I am going to be 37 in a few days, which is slowly creeping into my 40’s.
It’s true when we say, “time flies!” So if you’re mad at a friend, sister, brother, mother, whoever it is … just think about how angry you are at that person and weigh it with how much you actually care for him/her. People say the amount of anger you have for someone over any situation is usually caused by the amount of love you have for that person. This means, the angrier you feel, the more you love them.
After you think about the reason for your anger, try and think about your life 5 or 10 years from now. Do you think this problem is significant enough to affect you in 5 or 10 years? Do you think the person and your relationship with that person matters more?
When you feel the need to say negative things about someone, think about what that actually does. Not only could you potentially hurt the person you’re talking about, but it could also backfire on you, making you look like the gossipy person who has nothing better to do than bad-mouth someone else. Then of course, the person you’re telling your bit of gossip to is probably thinking, “wow! If she’s talking about Mary that way, I wonder what she’s saying about me?”
I don’t know about you, but the older I get, the less I feel the need to worry about small mishaps. If you want to see things in a different light and maybe a reflection on your own life, I recommend watching Parenthood. However, I must warn you — you’ll need to grab a few tissues!