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Your Anniversary Can Be a Look Back at Your Marriage Status

Today is my 8 year wedding anniversary. Together, my husband and I have been a couple for 10 years this week to be exact. The last 3 years, we’ve had a very trying journey and I’d like to take this moment to let him know (publicly) how I truly feel.

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We met in the most amazing and serendipitous way you can imagine. In fact, when we told the story about how we met at our wedding, people thought we were making it all up. It’s all true, however and somehow I always felt if a higher being was truly trying to get a couple together, all the stars aligned just perfectly to make it all happen.

However, despite the universe’s attempt to get us married, it didn’t keep us away from trials. Let’s just say we went through some really horrible experiences that many couples could potentially have split up for and the last 3 years have been very trying.

Marriage is a lot of work. In the beginning, everything is beautiful and flowery and you’re both experiencing what’s it’s like to call each other husband and wife. And as much as you’d love for it to always stay that way, the reality is that this person is no longer your Romeo or Juliet with all the exciting fixtures. You get to know the good, the bad, the ugly and you realize that you either have to stick it out or get out.

For many couples, marriage is much more than just a piece of paper. It’s commitment to become a family and do what family does, which is to help each other get through life in the thick and thin of it.

The trials we’ve been through over the past 3 years have really opened my eyes to a lot of growth and possibilities. However, it’s also made me realize that we truly are meant to be, because I am dead serious when I say that I can’t imagine my life without my man.

I wake up and the relief I have every morning is that the one person who’s vowed to be with me and who’s shared the first experience of parenthood with me is right there beside me, living and breathing. I think about the things that we all worry about and the grief we give one another because of the things that take place in our lives.

I look deeper and remember the friend I have who woke up with her husband dead in his sleep or the friend I have who lost her husband from alcohol abuse or all those people who can’t be with their wives or husbands for so many different reasons. I think about what they imagine and remember. It’s not the stupid fights they think about. It’s the happy moments and how they would give anything to spend even one more second with them.

So husband, if you’re reading this, I want you to know that I will always fight for us. Our lives may not be perfect, but I know you love me and I love you and that itself is more than plenty.

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop is the proud mommy to little Oliver and wife to hubby. She is a resident of Laguna Beach and a big player in the web's large social media circle.


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  • This is beautiful and honest. My husband and I have been married 10 years. It is always trying, but I would never stop fighting for us.

  • Congrats on ten years and I hope you have many more years together. Marriage is work and yes, you shouldn’t give up on it, if you truly love your partner.

  • Congratulations on your anniversary! What an inspiring post! We celebrated our 10-year anniversary yesterday. Marriage really is a lot of work but so worth it.

  • No matter what your relationship status is, it’s very important to be thankful for what you have! very good point 🙂

  • I love it, it’s very well said and it’s heartfelt. I hope you guys last for years to come! Happy anniversary to you both and don’t forget to celebrate your love everyday.

  • Happy Anniversary! On our anniversary we get sentimental sometimes and it is nice to look back on where we came from so long ago (15 years) and it is a good time to reflect as well as look to the future.

  • What sweet words to your hubby. For us, the first few years were the hardest because we were figuring each other out. Once we figured out how communicate, I swear it’s been really good ever since. I’m so thankful to have him x

  • My husband and I will be married for 9 years this year – and together for 10. So far, I cannot say we’ve had any trying interpersonal conflict. Most of the struggle has been his ex. Thankfully, we have a very strong marriage. I hope to be together for many years to come.

  • I think it’s inevitable that we grow as people, so our marriage naturally changes as a result. I know I am not the same person I was when I married my husband, so things HAVE to change to accommodate US 🙂