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Boys Learn Respect for Women from Their Mothers

As a young man, I remember the rage I felt whenever someone said anything negative about my mother. It would spring out of me like a tiger and take everyone, including myself, by surprise. I’m not sure if it’s a trait that males are born with or developed over time. As I became a father, I felt the same tiger spring from my thoughts when my children would offend their mother…

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“Mom, what’s for dinner?” my son would ask.

“Bracken, I made tomato soup and grilled cheese! Are you hungry?” she would lovingly reply.

Bracken would squint his eyes and throw out his tongue as he shouted in disgust, “YUCK! Tomato soup is disgusting! I don’t want that.”

Before I was even aware, I’d find myself saying to Bracken, “Young man, your mother works hard to feed you, clean up after you, and keep you healthy and warm. Don’t you ever tell her the food she has made is disgusting.”

My own father was this way. Maybe that’s where it all began for me. He loved and defended my mother at every turn. Not only my mother, but all women. He was quick to open doors and lend a hand. He treated women as something to be respected and praised rather than what so many men treat them as today: a body to be admired or a crazed woman to be feared.


Finding my wife was no easy feat. It took time for me to learn how to express my feelings which was something women begged and begged for. My wife was patient with me and it became easier and easier to be vulnerable with her. Now together, she and I teach our sons as best we can to not only respect their mother but to respect women in general.

Our society is in such desperate need of men and women who see each other as equals rather than as bodies to be used for pleasure or gain. Instead of expressing love and a desire for partnership and commitment, youth are settling for temporary relief, cheap satisfaction, and selfish desires.

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What Examples Do Mothers Set for Their Sons?

My wife teaches our boys how to respect women by respecting them herself. She doesn’t watch tv shows or movies that make light of nudity, sex, or relationships. We believe this has a major negative effect on our children and the way they perceive the “real world.” She is kind, never catty, and always looking for ways to help other people. We need more women and mothers like my wife in the world.



Instead, we look at social media and see a lot of women looking for praise and respect for their bodies, posing in their underwear, putting on their makeup, or seemingly having perfect homes and perfect lives. It’s conditioning our children to have a skewed perception of what life is really like – hard, uncomfortable, and taxing (while not so obviously very rewarding).

So how then, when all they see are photoshopped images of life and women’s bodies, are they going to cope when they get a dose of reality from time to time?


Respect Has To Start At Home

Our jobs as parents start from the second we know the task is at hand. The most effective way we can grow and teach our children is by example. We cannot expect our youth to mirror an image that we ourselves are not displaying. If you want your sons to respect their mother, you have to teach them to respect women.

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Start by modeling that behavior in your home. Remove inappropriate images, movies, block websites, filter your music. Present women in a light worth respecting by avoiding remarks about your wife that would be damaging for little children’s perceptions of them.

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By respecting and honoring women yourself, your children will be more likely to see and follow your example. And the opposite is definitely true as well: if you degrade women, if you treat them like objects, as though they aren’t smart, as if they’re crazy, or they’re a handful and just something we have to put up with – your children will view them in this way as well.

Tyler Jacobson

Tyler Jacobson

Tyler Jacobson is a father, husband, and writer, with experience as a content writer and outreach coordinator for HelpYourTeenNow. Tyler has offered honest advice and humor to struggling parents and teens. Tyler has researched and written on education problems, disorders, the world of social media, addiction, and pressing issues with raising a teen today. Follow Tyler on:
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  • I totally agree with you on so many fronts. But I also do believe, that nature plays a big part. So the boy who has spades of great nature and nurture has a great start to life!

  • I love this post. Children are like sponges when it comes to learning. They emulate what they see, so we parents should be the best examples for good behavior. My husband and I raised our kids in such a way that we had this mindset – We are not only raising our children, we are raising someone’s future wife or husband. We must do our best to teach them the virtue of kindness and respect.

  • Thank you so much for posting this. Its so important to teach our kids from home. Boys can learn so much from their moms when it comes to having respect for women. My husband is a fine example of how a mother can train their child. Great post!!! Sharing

  • Yes! If we want our kids to respect others, we need to teach them and be an example for them. Our home is their training ground.

  • Our children learn the things we do than what we say. Being consistent in teaching and setting examples is very important. You are very lucky to have your wife, love and treat her as your queen and she will make you her king.

  • Respect does start at home. I feel that it can come from both mother and father but not necessarily does it have to be both. Some homes have no fathers, and we have single dads raising sons too. I think this respect can come from grandparents raising their grandchildren as well. I love all of the points you made in your post and not disagreeing, but I also think that children can learn a lot of behaviors from a lot of places.

  • I so agree that respect starts at home. I like that your wife monitors what the boys watch on Tv as there are plenty of shows that do not teach our boys about treating ladies right.

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Tyler Jacobson

Tyler Jacobson

Tyler Jacobson is a father, husband, and writer, with experience as a content writer and outreach coordinator for HelpYourTeenNow. Tyler has offered honest advice and humor to struggling parents and teens. Tyler has researched and written on education problems, disorders, the world of social media, addiction, and pressing issues with raising a teen today. Follow Tyler on:
Twitter | Linkedin | Google +