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Why Santa Should Be Part of Our Children’s Memories

It was fine that I didn’t know the truth about Santa until I got a little bit already. Having him be a part of Christmas was some of the best memories I had. Children have such great imaginations that being part of a fairy tale made Christmas and any even special!

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We had tons of presents as kids, but Santa’s presents were the most special present of all! He knew exactly what we wanted and gave us our gifts because we were good boys and girls!

I can’t remember when I realized Santa wasn’t real, but I know it didn’t hurt as much as people think it would. In fact, I think I was proud to find out that Santa wasn’t real. Proud because I was a big person who could tell the next set of little people all about him. I was a big enough person that I could keep the secret and enjoy seeing my little brothers go through the fun.

Child have the special gift of imagination

Children have such a gift for being able to imagine anything they want. So I think it would be a shame to take away the special memory that keeps their imagination more alive than ever. It’s the memory of goodness and cheer. It’s the memory of songs and love. It’s the memory of happiness and togetherness. All the fun memories that could involve Santa.

For many parents, being able to share the story of Santa is as much fun for them as it is for their little one(s). It gives us the chance to be the grownup and share those special moments with our little ones just as our parents did. Being able to see our children’s eyes light up and fill with joy as they wake up and find their gifts from Santa is a gift for parents all on its own.

How to help your child deal with the non-existent reality of Santa

Santa himself, can be the greatest gift for a child on Christmas. However, you have to prepare for the moment your child realizes Santa doesn’t really exist. Some kids might be able to handle the situation very well, while others may not.

For some kids, the emotional attachment is real. In fact, the subject of betrayal may even come up as kids wonder why they were lied to. In our house, lying is a big “no no!” So I can’t even imagine how my own child would respond once we break the news to him. How do you help your child deal with this reality?

The top secret news strategy

For those who have younger siblings, it may be easier to break it to the eldest. You could let them know that they hold a deep dark secret that their younger brother or sister doesn’t know. This type of knowledge could help them get over the disappoint, because now they know some top secret news!

The comparison tactic

You might start with asking them to express their feelings. Once they’ve let it all out, you might compare the story of Santa to some of their favorite make-believe stories. Once you sense a little comfort in their response, you might want to ease into explaining to them why you didn’t tell them about the reality of Santa. You might share your own stories with Santa.

Think of a new tradition for Christmas

Now that your child knows all about Santa, you might want to introduce something even more fun and exciting that you can do every Christmas. Perhaps you can start an Advent Calendar and once the last reveal comes, you might want it to be something big and special.

The important thing is to have your child understand and know just how much fun the story of Santa brought into their lives. Memories are what make us who we are. The more fun and joy we instill in those memories, the more your child will appreciate little bits of life.

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop is the proud mommy to little Oliver and wife to hubby. She is a resident of Laguna Beach and a big player in the web's large social media circle.


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  • I think I have always known that santa wasnt real but I still had a lovely time playing make believe for my brother and my sister and I want the same for my children. Great post

  • I think it is something that children look forward to in December. Moreover, it’s common practice but eventually, they’ll outgrow it and decide for themselves.

  • My daughter already asked if I’m buying the presents, so I’m not sure how much longer she will believe in Santa’s existence. I can’t remember how old I was when I realized Santa wasn’t real.

  • Every child believes that they had to be good because Santa is checking his list and finding out who’s naughty or nice before coming to town and giving gifts. Santa’s non-existence doesn’t have to be a big deal, they will know it automatically when they get older and wiser, the time that they get to know the true meaning of Xmas.

  • in my family christmas would not have been Christmas without Santa. so i say my 10 kids have and are still making the most amazing childhood memories and they involve Santa.

  • Part of what makes the holidays so special is the magical aspect of them. Everyone can believe in Santa – even when they know he’s not real. Or is he?!

  • I’ve also said “If you don’t believe you won’t receive!” Worked on my son for a few years, lol! My daughter stopped believing when she sat on Santa’s lap at the mall and he said she was too young for an IPAD. Now she wants nothing to do with him!

  • We found a book that talks about the original “Santa” and how he would go and give kids shoes. My kids know about Santa, but I think we focus more on the birth of Jesus more. I think my kids love Christmas because it is a time when we focus a bit more on what truly matters. They are excited, but it is not all about getting, it’s about giving also. 🙂

  • i found and saved a every sweet letter on pinterest that someone had used to explain to their child that santa was not real. i remember i found out very young by older children who wanted to ruin it for me. I was extremely upset and felt lied to. But honestly, even before that Santa wasn’t a huge deal to me. Jesus was the one who made Christmas special for me. I am undecided on whether or not i will tell my children about santa but i feel like i will need to in order to avoid them spilling the beans to the other children

  • We didn’t have Santa in our house back then in the Philippines. We only see them in TV or movies and stories. But still there was that magical thing when we heard about Santa!

  • I’m 41 years old and I believe in the Spirit of Santa. That’s what I’ve told my kids. lol When they get a bit older, I’m sure they’ll come to realize there may not be a bearded man sliding down our chimney, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t a spirit of magic, love, and kindness that we can all believe in.

  • My youngest still believes and I am dreading the day when she asks about whether or not her is real. Thanks for the tips on handling this!

  • If I had to do it over again I would not allow Santa to be part of my child’s memories. At the age of eight my daughter came to me and said she was angry with me because I had lied to her. She knew the truth and to this day, she is 25 years old, reminds me of how I mislead her and lied to her and she tells me that I scared her for the rest of her life! Wow. I should have only celebrated the birth of Jesus Christ, isn’t that what “Christ” mas is?

  • Santa makes Christmas more exciting for kids and parents as well because they get to play the part! I love growing up knowing that Santa is going to give me tons of gifts for Christmas it was sad to learn the truth but hey! it’s definitely worth it!

  • I don’t know that I would say Santa “should,” each family raises their children differently. Personally, I told my daughter pretty early the story/fable behind Santa and she is now a well adjusted adult with her own child.

  • I like this. We do Santa in our house and its hard because we are Christians so it all kind of co-exists. My six year old still believes and I hope he can for a year or two more for our four year old’s sake.

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Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop is the proud mommy to little Oliver and wife to hubby. She is a resident of Laguna Beach and a big player in the web's large social media circle.