It was fine that I didn’t know the truth about Santa until I got a little bit already. Having him be a part of Christmas was some of the best memories I had. Children have such great imaginations that being part of a fairy tale made Christmas and any even special!
We had tons of presents as kids, but Santa’s presents were the most special present of all! He knew exactly what we wanted and gave us our gifts because we were good boys and girls!
I can’t remember when I realized Santa wasn’t real, but I know it didn’t hurt as much as people think it would. In fact, I think I was proud to find out that Santa wasn’t real. Proud because I was a big person who could tell the next set of little people all about him. I was a big enough person that I could keep the secret and enjoy seeing my little brothers go through the fun.
Child have the special gift of imagination
Children have such a gift for being able to imagine anything they want. So I think it would be a shame to take away the special memory that keeps their imagination more alive than ever. It’s the memory of goodness and cheer. It’s the memory of songs and love. It’s the memory of happiness and togetherness. All the fun memories that could involve Santa.
For many parents, being able to share the story of Santa is as much fun for them as it is for their little one(s). It gives us the chance to be the grownup and share those special moments with our little ones just as our parents did. Being able to see our children’s eyes light up and fill with joy as they wake up and find their gifts from Santa is a gift for parents all on its own.
How to help your child deal with the non-existent reality of Santa
Santa himself, can be the greatest gift for a child on Christmas. However, you have to prepare for the moment your child realizes Santa doesn’t really exist. Some kids might be able to handle the situation very well, while others may not.
For some kids, the emotional attachment is real. In fact, the subject of betrayal may even come up as kids wonder why they were lied to. In our house, lying is a big “no no!” So I can’t even imagine how my own child would respond once we break the news to him. How do you help your child deal with this reality?
The top secret news strategy
For those who have younger siblings, it may be easier to break it to the eldest. You could let them know that they hold a deep dark secret that their younger brother or sister doesn’t know. This type of knowledge could help them get over the disappoint, because now they know some top secret news!
The comparison tactic
You might start with asking them to express their feelings. Once they’ve let it all out, you might compare the story of Santa to some of their favorite make-believe stories. Once you sense a little comfort in their response, you might want to ease into explaining to them why you didn’t tell them about the reality of Santa. You might share your own stories with Santa.
Think of a new tradition for Christmas
Now that your child knows all about Santa, you might want to introduce something even more fun and exciting that you can do every Christmas. Perhaps you can start an Advent Calendar and once the last reveal comes, you might want it to be something big and special.
The important thing is to have your child understand and know just how much fun the story of Santa brought into their lives. Memories are what make us who we are. The more fun and joy we instill in those memories, the more your child will appreciate little bits of life.