I grew up with a stay at home mom, something that I didn’t entirely appreciate until I became a mother myself five years ago. I am now a mother of three, all under the age of five. So I definitely have a new understanding of what that title really means and everything that it entails.
Be Prepared for Imbalance
My mother stayed at home with all five of her children, her first born in 1982 and her fifth born in 1997. She dedicated herself to our needs, making sure she was there for us all the time, constantly on-call. She was, and still is, nothing short of a superhero.
While every stay-at-home will find her own balance, finding ways to strike out on her, whether for a full-on girls’ weekend or an hour grocery shopping alone, the reality is that most days are wonderfully imbalanced.
Love Can Change All Things
Before my son was born in 2012 I had no idea if staying at home was something I was interested in. But, the moment we locked eyes after a short but difficult labor and birth, I knew I would do anything to make sure he had everything he needed – including me.
I quit teaching full-time that year and have stayed home ever since. I do work from home as a freelance writer, but my number one priority is and always will be my three children. Oh, and let’s not forget the husband either.
Now, five years in, I have seen a good chunk of what being a stay-at-home mom really entails. Since then, I’ve had glimpses of what I strive to be one day, because my mom was such an incredible role model.
3 Important Considerations to Make Before You Become a Stay at Home Mom
If you’re considering choosing to be a stay-at-home mom, there are a few things you should have.
Unlike being the boss or manager of other grown people, you will be managing children. Most children typically don’t know how to be managed. There won’t be a single day that your nerves or temper won’t be tested. Being able to be patient will help you get through those trying times.
When you make your bed only to have it promptly bounced on or organize your pillows only to see them thrown on the floor, there are two choices you have. The first, and least productive, is to get mad. The second, and much healthier option is to find it amusing.
Should you laugh in front of your kids? Probably not unless you want to encourage it. Should you be able to take it in stride and appreciate it as something you will one day look back on and miss? Absolutely.
Choosing to be a stay-at-home mom is a huge commitment, and one that shouldn’t be taken lightly. I’ve heard many women, including my mom, say, “Oh, I’m just a stay-at-home mom.”
Just?! Don’t underestimate or devalue what you do. Regardless of comments you may hear, stay committed to your family and children and you will reap the rewards ten-fold.
Not everyone is cut out to be a stay at home mom and not everyone wants to be one. That’s fine! As women and especially mothers, we all need to support and respect each other’s decisions. But, if you do choose to be a stay-at-home mom, know that it will be the most difficult and rewarding role you’ll ever take on.