The Differences Between Gentle, Attachment and Permissive Parenting
We do our best as parents and don’t always realize that every situation, action and reaction we have can be embedded in our children’s memory bank. They have the potential to become certain types of people based on the way we parent, however different it may be.
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What is Gentle Parenting?
Gentle parenting considers empathy and respect to be of high regard and is meant to keep the age of the child at the forefront. So instead of viewing a child as automatically naughty, gentle parenting likes to view them as simply needing to learn because they just don’t know or understand the situation due to their age.
We all know that kids can sometimes test their parents with acts they already know are wrong. Gentle parenting will get past the act and look for the reason it was done in the first place. They understand that kids typically act out when they’re bothered or have strong feelings about something. It’s believed that a parent should give the child respect just as the parent themselves expects respect.
Gentle parenting believes that empathy is an important part of building a child’s confidence. With this comes a lot of understanding and listening, instead of telling and for many parents, yelling due to frustration.
What is Attachment Parenting?
Attachment parenting focuses significantly on the attached relationship between parent and child. It can start from a stage as early as pre-birth, helping parents understand their babies the best way possible. It encourages touch, such as baby-wearing, breastfeeding and co-sleeping, which are all believed to be very nurturing and a great way for the parents to connect with their baby.
Attachment parenting is often a controversial topic in the parenting universe, because it is seen as the key component to a child growing up and knowing whether or not that child can have normal/healthy relationships as an adult.
Outside of this, positive discipline that doesn’t include things such as spanking are encouraged as well. Attachment parenting urges parents to see beyond a temper tantrum as the child trying to communicate. So, instead of forcing a child to bend to your will, they suggest talking with the child and coming to a solution together with them.
There’s a worldwide educational association that identifies 8 principles for attachment parenting. It includes actions to encourage love, respect, independence, security, empathy and all the fundamental aspects of a healthy, positive lifestyle.
What is Permissive Parenting?
Permissive parenting involves a lot of nurturing with a very loving base. However, the “loving” part can sometimes be a misconception for outsiders looking in because of its relaxed style.
Have you ever threatened your child with a consequence or a punishment but never actually enforced it? Situations like this can be an example of permissive parenting. It’s when rules and expectations are set, but the guidelines are often weak and typically unenforced.
Permissive parenting often encourages the child or even reminds the child of their freedom rather than the responsibilities they hold. Kids are often calling the shots with parents sometimes believing that it’s a great way to show respect. However, it lacks any level of discipline and structure with a lot of bribing just to get the child to calm down or behave.
According to research, permissive parenting can generate negative consequences. Results show the likelihood of kids having more aggression, making poor decisions and sometimes prone to delinquency and substance abuse.
These may all be different parenting types, but they have one key component in common – love. As parents, we are all given the great ability to love our children. It just takes our special skills to help them thrive and become the adults we all hope them to be.
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Karlyn Bishop is the proud mommy to little Oliver and wife to hubby. She is a resident of Laguna Beach and a big player in the web's large social media circle.
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