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I Don’t Care if Your Child Started Walking Before Mine!

My son is a late bloomer. He was born 6 weeks premature and have had some catching up to do physically since he was born. Mentally, he’s very sharp, but he just didn’t want to start walking as early as everyone else.

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Moms Can Be So Competitive

One day, I walked into a Filipino restaurant with my son to pick up some of my favorite desserts. As I was waiting, a mom came up to me and asked how old my son was.

“He’s 11 months,” I replied.

“Is he walking yet?” she asked.

“No,” I said, knowing my forehead wrinkles were working overtime.

“I have a son who’s 11 months also, but he started walking when he was 9 months.”

I walked away as I tried my absolute hardest not to look at her again. I knew if I did, I wouldn’t be able to control myself, possibly causing a scene.

First of all, I would never go up to a mother with a small child and be obnoxiously rude. She would most likely be hormonal OR just really tired from taking care of her little one. I wouldn’t want to get punched.

The Benefits of Walking Late

My son didn’t walk until he was 18 months old. At the time, I had been worried. Then his amazing Pediatrician reminded me that he’s going to there eventually. He said he doubted that he would go to college still crawling.

“There are many athletes and incredibly talented people who developed really good hand-eye coordination, because they were late walkers.” My son’s Pediatrician smiled as he tried to comfort me.

There are other experts who also believe late walkers are naturally smarter. In fact, according to the Chiropractic News Source, early walking should be discouraged as it may cause “increased stress on spinal musculoskeletal structures, as well as possible delay in the development of neurological coordination.”

Being a mom is challenging enough. Being a part of the competitive nature of society can make it worse. All parents are different as all kids are different.

I didn’t meet the restaurant lady’s son, but who knows? My son may be a late walker, but he may also be a lot smarter than hers.

My son is now 5 years old. I feel blessed for the awesome little guy he’s growing up to be. I’m thankful for the fact that he’s healthy and he’s a part of my world. Everything else doesn’t matter as much, especially not some mom who’s a nobody to me. Get my drift?

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop is the proud mommy to little Oliver and wife to hubby. She is a resident of Laguna Beach and a big player in the web's large social media circle.


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  • I don’t like the idea of pushing the kids on what to do. It’s better if they do it on their own. I know some who’s like that and i just can’t :/
    Def not a competition.

  • there are indeed parents that are very competitive. i see them most in philippines or asian culture. (not generalizing) I always let me daughter do her own thing and dont let her stress with school. while others keep on pushing their kids too much. i just wanna see mine to be happy and enjoy being kid. and your kid probably is smarter!

  • All children walk and crawl at different times! I should definitely not be a competition! My mom said I never crawled and went straight from nothing to walking haha so to each their own!

  • I totally agree that some parents are so competitive. I experienced that in a heightened sense when I enrolled my kids in private school. That didn’t last very long – I couldn’t take the distractions and neither could the kids.

  • Yikes, parents can get so competitive at times. As long as they are not being rude on top of that I just brush it off.

  • People say the dumbest things. Truly. I have a friend whose son started walking at 6 months and she wished he hadnt. He would fall all the time and his coordination wasn’t the best. We all just have to ride our own waves!

  • Totally agree with your points in here. There’s no competition over at what age babies started to walk. There are some who walk a bit late while some does early. But all of it is normal. Not an issue at all.

  • It doesn’t matter how long it takes them to walk or reach the milestones, so long as they are healthy I am happy with that. I don’t really appreciate moms who goes around and boasts about their children. I know they are our pride but really, who needs to hear those?

  • I keep hearing from my sister and sister in law about if my baby is walking yet. She’s not quite 9 months and has been ahead on things so thinking she’ll walk sooner rather then later. But they keep telling me oh X kid was walking at this age why isn’t she…. Umm different kid she’ll walk when she’s ready.

  • I totally agree with your post! Having my Facebook mums group I have seen a lot of posts regarding this and some mums feeling like its a competition of who’s child can do what 1st, I have 6 kids myself and each one did things at different ages, some walked early some didn’t, some talked at an early age some didn’t, every child is different and will do things when they are ready! x

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Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop is the proud mommy to little Oliver and wife to hubby. She is a resident of Laguna Beach and a big player in the web's large social media circle.