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Are There Enough Enjoyable Moments in Your Life?

Have you ever thought about your life’s purpose? What you’re working so hard for and why it matters?

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Last year, I found out my friend, who would now only be 49 years old died. When he was alive, did whatever he wanted without a care in the world. He made lots of money, partied like tomorrow didn’t exist, and lived life to the fullest!

Another friend died just a week ago. She was a little older. Two years older than my mom, to be exact. Her husband is currently in a convalescent home and on a respirator, while her 6 kids and grandchildren decide on whether they could be strong enough to accept the death of another parent.

Then today, I heard about the 24 year old baseball player, Jose Fernandez who died in a boating accident. He was about to be a first-time father and sadly, his journey through life ended so quickly.

I don’t know if dying at an early age is more or less significant than dying at an old age. I think they’re both pretty significant. The mom with 6 kids and 16 grandchildren left some great memories behind, while a young man still has so much of life to live. To me, neither case seems fair.

I really don’t understand why, but I seem to be thinking about life and death a lot lately. Then the news about Jose Fernandez made me feel even worse. I don’t know who he is nor do I even follow baseball, but somehow the idea of his pregnant girlfriend and his family who is most likely crushed, not to mention all his fans and team mates, who mourn his death, has me feeling incredibly sad.

It doesn’t matter if we’re an overzealous entrepreneur, a proud mother who worked really hard to raise 6 beautiful kids, or a successful athlete. We all end up in the same place, no matter what we do in life. And no matter how advanced we are in medicine or technology, death is inevitable. Will we reincarnate, go to heaven, or just turn to dust?

I then wonder why it matters so much what we then do with our life if we are completely nonexistent. What if we don’t even turn into a fly on the wall? Who then cares what we are or how we live our life? Does it matter if we live it fully or not? Nobody truly knows what’s going to happen, regardless of how religious we think we are or how much research we’ve done about the after life. Fact is, nobody alive has ever truly been there. So we don’t know.

Yes, it’s true – I’ve turned into a Debbie Downer who wonders if it’s pointless to keep dreaming for the life I wish I could still have at the expense of time spent with my son or husband. Or do I live as many moments as I could being care-free, which isn’t actually realistic, because every step I seem to take lately requires some sort of monetary exchange.

I’ve also heard many people talk about cherishing the important people in our life. Of course, nobody would ever want sadness or anger or negativity for that matter, to be the last memory we have with anyone, in case an end time does come for any special person in our life. Do we then spend every moment we possibly can with that person (or people) and be sweet and passive no matter what happens? That could be very draining, especially if they have the potential to annoy you.

My parents, for example, are so important to me, but I can’t seem to keep myself under control when they say or do something that really irritates me. They’re in their 60s now and I know I would some day regret all the times I argued with them or spent time away, simply because I was filled with so much anger over things that will most likely be pretty insignificant later on.

I’ve heard many motivational speeches and quotes about thinking positive and enjoying every moment in life, because none of us really knows when our end time will be. I guess it all depends on what we think “enjoying every moment in life” really means.

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop is the proud mommy to little Oliver and wife to hubby. She is a resident of Laguna Beach and a big player in the web's large social media circle.

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  • We all have our own definition of what enjoying life means and it’s really all up to us if we decide to do what we want that makes us happy and enjoy life or not. It’s not healthy to ponder over the things that people tell you on how enjoying life is.

  • Life is short….just a vapor. I have thought about death a lot more as my parents age. My dad is going to be 70 soon and I can’t stand the thought of them not being here. I am trying to enjoy all my moments with them.

  • I’ve thought these same thoughts in my recent past, I told my self that I would make sure to go and do those things I once thought I would never do. So that I could create those memories with my loved ones or at least be able to tell tales of my younger years to my grandkids. It’s hard to say how to live ones life to the fullest but I would think that appreciating the time we do have with our loved ones and not stressing about the small stuff is one step to a happier life.

  • Existential dread is something that constantly haunts me. Luckily I have amazing friends and family members that keep me going with my head up. Thanks a lot for this post as well, it’s so real and important <3

  • There is so much emotion in this post… So many trite things people say and amidst all of this happening around you, it’s hard to even know your own thoughts. I’m not even sure what I’m trying to say here. The way you spend your time… I think you mean trying to balance responsibility and happiness. What is the measure of a life? Accomplishment? Happiness? Touching the lives of those around you? Maybe everything, I’m not sure anyone knows.

    • To be honest, I wasn’t quite sure what I was saying either or what my true intentions were. I just kept writing what I was feeling. I think you actually make more sense than I did! You’re so right though, I don’t think anyone truly knows what is right or wrong. I just think we do what we can to make every moment as positive as possible so those around us may also benefit from that energy. Also one of the many ways to help prevent chaos. 🙂

  • I’ve thought of this often lately. Especially on days that I feel like I have wasted away in front of the television or doing meaningless things – life is so, so short.

    • That’s so hard to hear, especially when they’re teens or younger. I could only imagine the heartache the parents are going through. It’s one of the many wonders as to why some are chosen so early.

  • This post really hits home. Just this year I have lost so many great friends. Started with a friend that I went to school with in 4th grade. He was 28 yrs old. He left behind a little girl.

    Then my friends 17 yr old son committed suicide. He was a father to be as well 🙁

    Then last week I lost one of my best friends in the whole world. She was 24 yrs old. Left behind a 5 yr old son. Car accident.

    Life is so short one thing I have learned is to live life to the fullest!

    • Just reading this makes me want to cry! This is a lot to handle in one year. And the thing is, you and all the loved ones of those who died are the ones left to go through the pain of loss. Life is definitely short! Thanks for sharing. I do hope you’re healing through it all and as it seems, you are on the track 🙂

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Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop is the proud mommy to little Oliver and wife to hubby. She is a resident of Laguna Beach and a big player in the web's large social media circle.