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First Time Mom’s Potty Training Journey

About 3 months ago, I made the ultimate decision to get the potty mechanism into action.  “He’s ready,” I said. He could memorize the entire movie of Cars. I’m sure he could understand why we need to get rid of the diaper and start doing his business in a bowl.

potty-trainingThe first few days was definitely tough.  I read in an article once (can’t remember the source) that toddlers have a fear of letting go of their waste elsewhere. They feel as though they are letting go a part of their body that they aren’t quite ready to do yet. So patience is most important.

So we got rid of the diaper and kept a really careful watch, realizing that he could go on the couch, on the rug, carpet, and anywhere else. We knew we could be dealing with a great big mess at any time.

My husband tried to get my little Oliver to copy him as he stood up to pee. Unfortunately, he isn’t with daddy often enough to really get it.  I had him sit and copy me every time I needed to go. He would sit on his potty while I sat on mine.

I think he finally had enough after 3 days of constant accidents. My friend and I were sitting down, having a chat in my living room when I heard his little voice say, “Mommy! I did a pee pee!” Oh great, I thought as I sighed and got ready to clean up another mess.

“Where did you pee pee honey?” I asked.

“There Mommy!” he said happily as he pointed to the bathroom.

I walked and felt like I won something! I was so happy I screamed! My friend saw my excitement and started jumping with me!  I then picked up my little guy and said, “I think this deserves a really nice piece of chocolate!”

“Yes! Oh yes!” Oliver started jumping too as he walked to the kitchen for his chocolate.

I only needed one pee to help him understand, I thought happily  and signed as I looked at the little potty full of it.

He loved telling me he did a pee because I showed excitement every time.  Of course the pooh part of it took a while longer for him to get into. He screamed and cried every time I made the attempt to get him to sit and strain. Sometimes I would rush him into the toilet after catching him trying to let one out. When I get there, he would scream and yell and eventually not have to go anymore.  That frightened me a little because I didn’t want him to hold back his pooh, which turned into days at a time, just because he was afraid to let it go in the toilet. So when I knew he was about to go, I put him in the diaper and let him do it there.

“You’re taking a step back,” my husband would say.

“I don’t want my child to get sick because he couldn’t let go,” I replied.

One day, I knew he really needed to go so I rushed him into the bathroom, where his little potty was, I sat him down and I immediately sat on our toilet and pretended I had to do it too. I looked the other way so he wouldn’t feel embarrassed and he did his business! He either had to go bad or he felt comfortable because I was doing it with him. Whatever it was, I’m so glad he did.

I sat with him a few times before he understood that it was all ok.  We still have many accidents, especially with the part where aiming is involved, but at least he’s using the potty! In fact, he doesn’t even want a diaper during bedtime, regardless of how wet he gets at night.

It all feels like a major milestone and such a wonderful, yet frightening feeling. My son has moved into a very big stage of his life. It feels a bit like graduation or something so exciting and worth being proud for.

Lexie Lane

Lexie Lane is the creator of voiceBoks.com, owner of Social Media Panel, and co-author of the book, The Blogger's Survival Guide Tips and Tricks for Parent Bloggers Wordsmiths and Enthusiasts.

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  • My son will do it on occasion but it is partially my fault. I will let you know that some kids do take longer to go number 2 in the potty. They think it feels weird not to have it up against their skin or they don’t like the feeling as it falls into the potty. But they will eventually get the hang of it, until then be patient and give them praise when they use the potty.

  • I had a girl first who at 14 months was always opening her diaper SHE TOLD ME SHE WAS READY =) My son a few years later was always watching her go so getting him to try wasn’t too bad. But when I was a Nanny there were many bathroom battles! I’m glad you and your hubby didn’t take steps back and pushed on — YEAH FOR OLIVER!!!

  • You brought back memories of our potty training too… Boy, was it anxiety inducing. I remember celebrating as well once my twins finally got it. One thing their doctor used to say which I love was,” Don’t worry, they won’t go to college in diapers.” 😆
    Elizabeth

  • I have never gone through potty training and most likely won’t as I don’t have any little ones. So many emotions it appears goes with this process, anxiety, excitement, and many more. Congrats and making it this far! All 3 of you (mom, dad and son)!

  • YEAH!! Way to go!!! Potty training is a nightmare! I’ve done it twice but delaying on my youngest DD2. I don’t know if its because she is my baby and I want her to stay that way or what but I dread starting it!

  • Woohoo! That’s a big step! We’re not there yet. My son’s only 20 months, so I’m not worried about it. I have a friend who’s trying to potty train her son at the same age, and he keeps pooping on the floor…or the closet…or her dresser drawer. Uhm, I’m just going to wait until I know my son “gets” it. =D

  • It’s such a monumental step and it’s one of their first realizations that they have control over something and we don’t. It gets tricky that way! I’m so glad he got the idea and I hope it’s all smooth sailing from here on out!

  • It’s so great that you listened to your child and his needs while potty training. A lot of parents get so focused on the timeline aspect and forward progression they forget to listen.

  • My little girl was an absolute angel and so easy for everything, but not potty training. It was a NIGHTMARE. Horrible. Awful, and probably the reason I stopped at one child.

  • Yay, Oliver! I remember those days. The days I got impatient, I just reminded myself that there is an end to the training-Hey, it’s not like he’ll be 40 and still poop in diapers-they get it eventually!

  • That IS exciting!! Yay!

    My almost 3 year old isn’t interested, so I’m waiting for his cues. I wonder if his sister, who’s only 12.5 months younger will potty train before he does. I’ve read that can happen, and that they can also encourage each other.

  • Almost every parent do this process on each on of their kids. But not many can write a nice article about as you did, though subject was not of mush interest to me still I read all coz you wrote it very well.