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So You’re Married, Does That Make Valentine’s Day Less Meaningful?

It’s funny how time flies when you’re married. Today is February 1st and nearly Valentine’s Day so I’m about to get into the spirit of what it’s all about. Actually, my husband seems to think Valentine’s Day isn’t actually a holiday and just another day for women to expect chocolates

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For me, Valentine’s Day is always an emotional day. It’s the day I feel the most love and am loved. It’s the day I reflect on what’s most important in my life … the people who mean the most to me.

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Do You Pay Enough Attention to the Little Things?

Valentine’s Day is also a day to celebrate the time I have with the one person I was matched with for life, my husband. The other day, I was sitting on the couch and watching as he took his sweater off and walked over to the kitchen to make some coffee. This was such a mundane task, but I couldn’t help thinking about how much I appreciate that moment, because let’s face it, one day … that moment may just be a memory, if that.

My husband and I have been together nearly 10 years. We’ve been through a lot together, but have conquered many challenges. Understanding the way life works, we’re probably going to go through many more. So as long as I have moments to reflect on the sweet days, I’m going to take full advantage of it.

It feels as if just yesterday when we got married. Then I look in the mirror and notice how many wrinkles I have and remember to snap back into reality. So if time can pass that quickly, I know all these small moments with him won’t be forever.

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So for me, Valentine’s Day is not just a day to celebrate our love for one another, but a day to celebrate the time, past and present together. It’s the day we remind each other of how rich we already are, because we have what many people don’t — true love.

How do you see Valentine’s Day?

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop is the proud mommy to little Oliver and wife to hubby. She is a resident of Laguna Beach and a big player in the web's large social media circle.


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  • Great post! I wrote something similiar last week as I’m ten years married this year. I think it’s all about effort and details! X

  • I agree. Showing your significant other that you love them goes beyond Valentine’s Day. We try to make it a thing to make each other feel special every day. I think that’s what matters most.

  • We don’t have a huge Valentine’s tradition. We usually just go out to eat as a family then go home and watch a movie with the kids.

  • Valentine’s day in our household feels like it’s just another day but with a bouquet of flowers…lol! My husband and I have been married for over 12 years, and occasion like Valentine’s day is not that a big of a deal compared to celebrating our anniversary.

    Thanks for sharing!

  • Love this post. I know after 16 years of marriage we tend to get complacent and comfortable and let the little things go. However, we also have a great understanding of each other and our love runs deep which I think is better then newer loves.

  • Valentine’s day is not so big in Norway compared to the US and other countries. I think it is a cute day to celebrate if you are in a relationship or dating someone. However it is important to show love other days as well.

  • Your post is lovely. Valentine’s day is just a reminder for us. Everyday we should express our love to people we value.

  • Karlyn,
    What a lovely Valentine’s Day blog post! It’s been a while since I had fun on Valentine’s Day, and I think this year I will make the day a special one for both my husband and my kids! Life is so precious and time passes way too quickly! Thanks for your ideas!

  • It’s sad that your husband feels that way about valentine’s day. It sure is an exploited date by corporations to get the largest amount of profit as possible, but I feel like it’s just a day to celebrate love. A feeling very needed recently

  • Valentine’s Day has always been one of my favorite holidays. That’s the first holiday my husband and I celebrated together when we first met, almost twenty years ago. It always holds such fond memories!

  • What a sweet heartfelt and meaningful post! All that you said is SO TRUE! My husband and I do not really GET each other things for holidays too much. Sometimes we do, other times not, depending on current finances and such but that does not mean the meaning of the day is lost. We celebrate each other every day in small ways. Such as our “sweetie” a little – statue I guess is what to call it, just this little nick nack I picked up at a local shop that says “I love you this much” and she has her arms stretched out. Anyway we “hide” this from each other every day, although some days we forget to lol. Most days though one or the other of us will find “sweetie” as we call her hiding somewhere for the other to find her. She can be found in my coffee tin, or on top of a light fixture, or in the medicine cabinet, on the seat of a car, anywhere 🙂
    Things like this are the little things, small “traditions” we do to let each other know we are thinking of the other every day.
    Thanks for your post. I much enjoyed it.

    • Thank you for sharing your Valentine tradition with us Joely. This is lovely and what a sweet idea! It just goes to show that couples can always find ways to rekindle their love and it never has to be anything extravagant. Sometimes the best things are also free, right? I hope you do enjoy this Valentine’s. 🙂

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Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop is the proud mommy to little Oliver and wife to hubby. She is a resident of Laguna Beach and a big player in the web's large social media circle.