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Are You at the Midlife Pondering Stages of Your Life Yet?

Are you there yet? Are you at the midlife stage of your life when you can’t help but wonder what else there is to it?

Last week, my dad thought he was being funny by sending a group quote to the entire family that said,

I couldn’t help feeling sad about the fact that my parents are in this age group and that this joke is in fact more true than funny. I thought about some of the people we knew who have passed and how nothing in the world actually changes because of it. Sure, there are moments when we (and others who are special to them) may occasionally reminisce with memories of them, but the reality is, they are gone and we have no idea whatever becomes of them.

How much do your beliefs truly affect your life?

When someone dies, we might try to convince ourselves that we will see them soon. Depending on what people believe, you might hear, “they’re just resting” or “they’re in a better place now.” Are they, though? And what of your legacy? How much does that really matter if you’re just dust and have no ability to care?

My cousin told me I needed to start going to church. She feels it would help me live my life with more of a purpose, because having something to believe in, whether it’s true or not, can help give me more peace of mind than having nothing.

I went to church for about 30 years, trying to believe in something and hoping my heart would accept God just like those people I meet in church who live and breathe for the lord they think is going to help take them to a kingdom far beyond where we are now. I always liked the idea of having a true connection and understanding of what will be. Unfortunately, doubt always lingers in my head, no matter how hard I’ve tried to accept “the word.”

Aside from my dad’s funny quote reminder, I’ve been thinking a lot more about life in general. I think about the fact that some of my friends from high school already have kids who are attending their senior prom and realize that nearly 20 years have actually passed since I graduated high school and wonder whether or not I’m actually living my life to the fullest.

What does it mean to live life to the fullest?

Seriously, what does it really mean to live your life to the fullest? If I tried to get into Hollywood to be a movie star so I could be rich and famous, would that be enough? What if I tried to convince a billionaire to feed half the hungry people in the world? Would that be enough? What if I jumped out of airplanes and ate at every restaurant in the world? Would that be enough? What does “living life to the fullest” really mean?

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Does living life to the fullest mean that I would have to do something that makes me truly happy? Right now I know that what would make me truly happy is to lounge around for as long as possible, eat sushi all the time, and watch as many movies as I could without being judged. That’s what would make ME truly happy.

Then I look at my son and my husband and remember just how my heart seems to skip beats when I see how happy they are. Of course it’s not always like that, but when those lovely days happen, I know just how amazing each of those moments are. At those times, I feel like I understand what “living in the moment” means.

Although I will never know if my life will have meaning or whatever that actually means, I do know that my own happiness does include seeing joy in the people in the people I love. So for now, my living life to the fullest means living to see more happy moments with all the people who matter most to me.

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Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop is the proud mommy to little Oliver and wife to hubby. She is a resident of Laguna Beach and a big player in the web's large social media circle.

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  • I am a Christian who finds purpose in a relationship with Jesus Christ. It definitely helps me see the blessings that have been put right in front of my face. Where I work or what people think of me does not define me, I find peace in where I am at.

  • Indeed, this is an awesome post. Life is too short but it will be long depends how we responds through it. And, I just believe in Almighty.

  • I have already lived a pretty full life. Full of things people would never want to experience and things that they wish they could!

  • I think it’s definitely something different to different people. I have no desire to climb Mount Everest, but that’s a goal many have. I think it really is being able to do what you desire in the world.

  • I qm nearing 40 and feel that I haven’t accomplished much in that time. Things have happened that were beyond my control or comprehension. :/

    I try to look at things that I have done and realize that there is time left to do the things I want to. Life is never perfect.

  • I think that living life to its fullest means different things to different people. Some people would be just as happy to have sat at home and never have gone anywhere. Others would love to travel. I have been to most places that I would like to see at this point and I am pretty happy with my life.

  • I’m in my late 20’s right now. I can’t believe I’ll be 30 in just a couple of years! It’s crazy how time flies by so quick.

  • I have currently been going through a phase where I keep asking myself what I am doing and what my life has done or is gong to do. Sometimes you have to stop and take a few minutes to look at your life and determine what it is you want.

  • This is an interesting topic indeed. To me living life to the fullest is being happy and not wasting time along with energy on things that don’t matter. Life really is to short to waste. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  • Not yet, I’m currently attending school and finishing my degree as Pharmacist. We have our own business and the people who adopted me wanted me to take the course. I don’t have a choice tho, but back when I get pregnant. I started to move on with my life, and told myself I should give everything to my baby. So, after I’ll graduate I will think through everything! Thanks for this post!

  • I always try to live each day to the fullest. I have lost a few friends at a young age and know how short life can be. Always tell your loved ones how you feel.

  • I am entering my mid thirties and ready to rock and roll! As the great Maya Angelou said; This is my life. It is my one time to be me. I want to experience every good thing.

  • I am 39 and still don’t feel like I’ve grown up. I am definitely a person who ‘lives in the moment’ and enjoy squeezing all sorts of memorable experiences and bit of positivity out of each day.

  • I am definitely at the pondering stage of life. It’s no longer enough to know about something, I want to know why it exists, and why I feel the way I do about it. It’s almost self discovery as much as it is pondering.

  • I really enjoyed reading this post. The older we get, the more we ponder the really big ideas. I think it’s because the older we get, the closer we get to death. It sounds morbid, I know.

  • I’m in my 30s, and I constantly think about this stuff. I love that you’re also questioning life – and your own thoughts. Just remember that some questions aren’t meant to have answers. 😉

  • What a wonderful thought for the day. I’ve found that at different stages of life I’ve asked myself where do I want to go from here, and reinvented my life if necessary. It’s always good to keep growing and changing

  • I am turning 43 this year and sometimes when things go slow I wonder what life needs to offer after 5 -10 years time. I am dredging the time that I am old and not capable anymore to do things physically (worst case scenario) I just wish my mind can still think fast and efficient and even more like today. 🙂

  • I felt like this when I was turning 40. It seems crazy now I’m the other side of it but I felt I’d reached this milestone too quickly and panicked. There were also some crazy things going on in the world at the time and it made me realise you should do everything you want to do as far as is possible and live without regrets. I went on to fulfil my dream of getting my book published.

  • Religion or not – I believe any higher power – be that the kind we hear about in church or some sort of sentient being would want us to do things that make us happy, harm none, and give back to society even in some small way. Do for others – even if that simply means give someone with a frown on their face a smile. We all can afford to do that in life.
    I am getting closer to this age group than I care to admit. Having had serious medical issues my whole life my age, 48 this month is like 65 for most people.
    I am hanging in there though and every day doing my best to be the best me.
    I love how open your article here is.
    XOX

  • What a great post. I just turned 41 and I just asked myself the other day…what am I going to do when I grow up. It’s amazing how fast life seems to slip by us.