I’m guilty of neglecting myself, and even though I usually plan my days out, somehow my “mommy time” always got lost in the shuffle of my day. I’m sure many moms can relate.
My to-do list for the day usually consists of cooking, cleaning, playing taxi, running errands, working, and the list goes on. I get tired just thinking about it.
Most moms already know but there are other priorities
I cannot count how many times I’ve heard, “You’re going to burn yourself out!” Like I didn’t already know this, but I felt it was my duty to keep going.
I’m a mom for goodness sakes. If my family needs me, I’m there. I work from home, and I’m the mom to five children, where is there time for me? I felt it would be selfish of me. What was I thinking?
It wasn’t until I was diagnosed with Thyroid cancer that I started slowing down, but that still did not stop me. I was still in go-go-go mode, and when I didn’t get everything done for the day I felt guilty. It’s always nice when you have friends and family to help out, but I was stubborn, and refused the help. I wanted to do it all myself.
My body was so tired that I started having difficulty sleeping. Health problems started piling up on me. I found myself suffering from anxiety, and crying for no reason at all. Finally it occurred to me that in order for me to be a good mom, and improve my health, I needed some mommy time.
The difference planning makes
I needed to start planning those date nights with the hubby to keep our marriage bond strong. It was important for me to take a timeout for myself. I’m mom, but I’m human too.
Even if it was only for 20-30 minutes a day. I finally got it through my head that I deserved some “me time,” and it was okay for me to take some personal time for myself.
While the kids were in school, I started with slow motion strength training twice a week for twenty minutes. Even though I was working out, and getting my body in better shape, my “mom time” was well overdue.
Some mornings, after I finished my morning errands of course, I would sneak off to the park with a good book, and a Starbucks Frappuccino.
For those extra stressful days I would incorporate yoga, and meditation, in my day before picking up my kids from school. It was the little things here and there that made all the difference.
I felt like a huge weight was lifted off of me… Finally. This is why mom time is so important. If you don’t take care of yourself then you cannot take care of anyone else. My hubby use to tease me by saying, “If momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.” It would give me a quick laugh at how silly my family can be sometimes, but it also reminded me of the important role, and responsibility I had as a mother, and wife.
What are some of your favorite mommy time things to do?