Becoming a parent is an opportunity to step into a new life with a new you. All the things you may not have realized about yourself will sudden make its appearance, such as the feisty lioness you never knew actually existed.
From a distance, an onlooker (non-parent) might think that moms should suddenly develop that motherly instinct and evolve with niceties and more compassion for people in general. Because we’ve now got children, we should understand what it means to just be “nice.”
Oh, but it’s quite the contrary. The initial stages of motherhood is like training for the military. You go through a series of physical and mental exercises in order to gain the discipline you need for the tougher, more advanced stages of parenthood.
The responsibilities it takes to keep small children alive, while still being functional and somehow socially present for important appearances, like school orientations and jobs must all be done, while being sleep deprived. For many mothers, depression can kick with such vengeance, making life even more difficult to handle.
Still can’t understand? Try going at least 5 days without sleep, but feel free to have as much coffee as your body can handle. During those days, go ahead and get as much interrupted, 4 hour periods of sleep as you can. Then come and tell us how great you feel. Are you tired or feeling a bit looney?
The difference between the above experiment and a real one of a parent’s is that the parent has absolutely no option to quit. I mean, they can but there would be disastrous consequences.
So after all the physical and emotional abuse their body goes through, it’s no wonder many moms gain the added spunk they may not have had. They no longer have the ability to tolerate bullshit and feel it more invigorating to actually say the things they never had the courage to say.
When you see moms out with their children, I would steer clear of judgments and side glances. Most of the time, those parents are tired and probably just trying to keep things sane in their house by going out as a family. This is their moment to have a good time with a nice meal they don’t have to prepare themselves.
So … are we in understanding of the bitchyness? Don’t judge if you’re not yet a mother or have not gone through the common stages of fatigue and emotional trauma. It’s all real and deep exercises into the soul of many mothers. Compassion and as much understanding as possible is all that is needed.