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Why Moms Thrive with Quality Friendships on Their Side

I love being a mom. It’s such an amazing feeling to have someone love you so sweetly and most of the time, unconditionally. Let me be honest though, I don’t want to do mom things 24 hours a day. So besides driving kids around, feeding them, doing homework and having quality time together, I do need my own happy “ME” moments.

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A nice spa treatment or even Netflix binging is great, but those times I get to kick back and “shoot the shit” with my friends are not just amusing, but moments I truly cherish.


Do you have a person (besides your husband or relationship partner) you can share deep dark secrets with? Someone you know who will accept out and be there for you no matter what? Having a husband is great and amazing, but as a woman and mom, there are things in my life I know my husband can’t possibly relate to. When I get together with my friends, we talk about things we can all truly understand and of course laugh about. If we’re sad, bored, happy, or mad, we could openly share it with one another and find the release we need to move forward or the genuine support we know we can wholeheartedly give.

2 types of friendships

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There are 2 types of friends you might have:

  1. the social friend – these friends are more like your acquaintances, but you call them friends because you’ve either known them for a while or you run into them so often you could almost say they’re a pretty good part of your life. You often see them in social gatherings, but they would only be there for you in limited ways. You couldn’t really confide in these friends with your secrets or comfortably share anything about you or your life with them.
  2. the quality friend – these friends are gifts in your life. They are there for you, simply because they love your company and want to be there for you. You can confide in these friends and share very special moments with them.

Quality friendships can promote good health

Quality friendships are quite special. As a mom, it can help promote good well-being and a more healthy lifestyle. Quality friendships can create happiness and comfort in knowing that you’ve got an unyielding support system you could rely on when things get tough. These friends are also happy for you when good things happen in your life.

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The positive parenting effects of mom friends

Mom friends find solace with each other. When times get tough, most women really just need someone to vent to. It helps them release that stress that could potentially drive them to be angry or act hideously around others, especially the ones they love most.

Mom friends also have a wonderful way of motivating each other. Whether they talk about their goals or secretly do it to show off to each other, they are still getting it done! If they don’t meet their goals, they could still talk about it and restart!

It’s great to have many friends and Facebook is an amazing place to show others just how popular you are. However, the person with 1,000 friends is never as rich as the person with 1 close, quality friend. It’s a nice thought to have fun times with someone, but it’s even more amazing to know that you have someone who will be there even when you’re not at your best.

If you have that special friend, be sure to give that friendship the attention it needs. Don’t take it for granted, because life is too short. Our kids will grow and sometimes even marriages don’t work out, but your friend, your special friend could be the one person who may truly be at your side til death due you part.

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop is the proud mommy to little Oliver and wife to hubby. She is a resident of Laguna Beach and a big player in the web's large social media circle.

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  • My mom had me at a young age, therefore, lost out on most of her teenage/young adult years. She has a few close friends, and really looks forward to the nights she goes out with them. I always tell her to get out and make more friends, especially now since the kids are out of the house.

  • Quality friendship is hard to find. I had friends I left when I entered my married life with my hubby here in US and our only communication is thru social media. This is a great post to know how important to have people like them.

  • I think I have some in each category. There are some I want to be closer to. Friendships are hard as an adult, especially a woman because they take a back seat to everyone else. I try hard in my friendships but I need to catch up with several.

  • I absolutely agree. Although I admit that I need more of a social life, I absolutely don’t know how I would manage without friends to talk to, vent to laugh with and hang out with. It keeps me sane and provides me with much-needed support.

  • There is nothing I can’t tell my husband but there are some things that my best friend “gets better”. I love having girlfriends that are like sisters. You know when you can discuss poop you have a true friend for life. Lifer friends are the best.

  • Totally agree! As we get older the whole concept of friendships changes. Having a couple of quality friendships makes life just wonderful! I in fact have a few that I have been friends with for many, many years!

  • If I were to ask you what you value most in life, I’d be willing to bet your answer would revolve around your relationships—with your children, your spouse or partner, your family, and your friends.

  • A few quality friends are worth their weight in gold – Id rather have one or two that I know I can count on in the tough times than loads who are only in it for the good times!

  • I agree! it is so important to have a friend or two that you can really rely on and that “gets” you. thanks for sharing!

  • Being a mom is fabulous but having a friend who relates to the chaos that goes on in your day to day is more than great, it’s a gift!

  • I feel like I have only social friends, but I think it’s mostly my fault. I can’t seem to find time for myself let alone for other people. I really hope that after I finish school this time around that I can make this time, because I do miss having quality friendships.

  • Everyone should have someone they can rely on. It’s a basic human need. We all want to be loved and understood.

  • Agree with you! It’s important to have a quality friend. I’ve a great buddy whom I share a lot of things to. Even though we’re on a different country and time zone, I know that he’ll be there for me when I need a friend to talk to.

  • I agree I talk to my best friend about stuff my husband just can’t understand. I am lucky enough that we have been friends since before we came moms too. This post is spot on.

  • Yeah, as parents, we definitely need another person we can vent and just be around to blow off steam! We have been working to each have one of these in our lives to help us grow.

  • I have a very close friend I go to for everything. It is important to have an amazing friend that is always on your side!

  • A friend will not only help you rebound from the negative hits you take in life, but they will also inspire you to be the best you can be. You can deal with lots of ups and downs in life, friends is always there to support you and give you an emotional lift when you need. Friends can also influence you to make positive health changes in your life.

  • I think having a close friend you can talk to and get advice from is awesome. It is nice to call on someone when you don’t have the answers to something or needing another set of eyes.

  • This is very accurate. We definitely need support from fellow moms or friends who listen and understand what we’re going through. I have friends who have been with me through thick and thin and they have helped me become a better mom.

  • I cannot emphasize enough how friendships are important. They could get you through anything. I always say this. This couldnt be more true.