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Why Your Multiple Children Are Not My Problem

I have a 5 year old who’s attending the last week of preschool. He will be going to Kindergarten soon! Wow! It’s making me emotional just thinking about it!

having multiple children

Is “Class Mom” a Real Thing?

Many classes (especially for young children) nowadays have what they call a “class mom.” It’s a mom who volunteers to organize events for the class in order to help the teachers throughout the year.

This year, the class mom for my son’s class did 2 things: put together a gift card as a gift for the 2 teachers in the class and now she’s putting together a gift card for the teachers for the end of the year.

On Christmas, all the parents received a general email that thanked everyone for the donation towards the gift card. Didn’t see or hear anything more about it.

Months passed and the teacher’s appreciation week was nearly forgotten. So I sent an email out to all the parents reminding them of it. Sadly, the teachers seemed to have been SOL’d this year because of the assumption that the “class mom” was going to take care of things.

Now the end of the year is nearly here for our Preschoolers and again the class mom asks for donations towards a gift. So I sent an email in the nicest way possible, letting her know that I’m going to be getting my own gift together. Of course I couldn’t help it and asked her whatever happened with the Christmas gift, because I wasn’t aware of when she’d ever given it to them. I emailed her about my contribution but never received an email back.

Her response was that she has 4 kids and can’t get to her emails sometimes. So she apologizes, but mentions how rude I was just for asking.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I absolutely admire moms and dads who kick butt at the multiple children thing. I have one child and trying to juggle him with my job, is challenging enough. So I get how much work it can be to have many more to care for, while trying to have a life at the same time.

Here’s to … Just Taking on What You Know You Can Handle!

My beef is that if you’ve already got your hands full, don’t take on something you know you can’t handle and have other people suffer for it.

I have a friend who has 3 girls under the age of six and when she’s got a task to do, you better believe she will give it her 100%. Now, I know everyone is different and we all come across circumstances, but the thing is … she never makes her children other people’s problems.

What I mean by this is that I have heard too many excuses that have to do with … “I have this many children. So I’m sorry if I couldn’t fulfill THAT promise … ”

So things happen and your children are your top priority. I get it, but it doesn’t mean life stops. After being a parent for a while, shouldn’t you be aware of the possibilities of things that could happen? If you know you just can’t commit to something, don’t do it. That’s all.

Just remember how it would feel if the shoes were on the other feet. If you counted on others, you would surely understand whatever happens, but the disappointment would still be there, wouldn’t it?

Parents of multiples — what are your thoughts?

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop is the proud mommy to little Oliver and wife to hubby. She is a resident of Laguna Beach and a big player in the web's large social media circle.

18 comments

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  • Great point, if only it some people can read this and be more conscious. I wouldn’t doubt that around the time they applied for the position, they were probably good with their schedules but when the time comes that it can’t be done anymore, it’s either they transfer the responsibility to someone else or simply make the time to do it.

  • My son had triplets in his classroom two years running. Mom and Dad were definitely busy but they kept taking on more stuff. They did more than me, lol…Boy Scouts leader, classroom volunteer, PTA, Lego Club and more. No kidding. I don’t know how either of them had time to work.

  • Totally agree – it’s the same with some people who don’t have kids too – people will always find some time for the stuff they want to do (5 mins on Facebook/favourite tv show etc) and justify it as well deserved rest time but never for ‘boring’ responsibilities.

  • I have sibling twins and my Mom had to ask for help that time raising them. No one is to judge a Mother for having multiple children.

  • I get it. Life happens and sometimes things get out of hand, although she probably should have asked for help than to use her kids as an excuse. On the flip, did any other parent offer to help?

  • I get it, I really do. I often find myself taking on tasks like these although I do not have the time, but it’s not because I want to; it’s because no one else steps up. If this was something she just jumped into without asking if others wanted to do it; that’s one thing, but if it was dumped on her because no one else wanted to take the lead, then the whole group of parents need to reevaluate their role 🙂

  • I’ve heard this excuse so many times in my life, I know having kids must be totally difficult but some people see this as an opportunity to skip things that correspond to them.

  • I definitely get where you’re coming from, this is why I don’t accept responsibilities I might not be able to finish. It’s tough to be a parent and juggle everything that life throws at you so why add more. I don’t think it was rude of you to ask, it’s just that you were expecting something and this person didn’t deliver.

  • My two girls were 18 months apart. Three years later I had twin boys. Never once did I back out of an obligation because of my kids. I took them right along with me. Easy? No. Do-able? Yes. People get that you have kids and that sometimes you don’t have a babysitter.

  • As a mother of two boys I completely understand where you coming from. Being a single mom makes it even harder, I’d love to volunteer for many of my kids activities at school, but I know I don’t have the bandwidth and when I do, I try my best to be considerate to other parents. If you commit to something, stick to it and be responsible.

  • Absolutely! It;s none of my business how many kids another mom has. If she can take care and love them all – more power to her.