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A Note to My Husband About My Period

I think a lot of us ladies are misunderstood about the conditions of our period. It’s not that we want to cause problems during that time of the month, but we really just want to be heard. After all, it’s the time we finally get the absolute courage to say what we can’t say for the other days of the month.

note to husband

This month, I’m going to try to do things a little differently and hope my husband will cooperate with me. Actually, it’s more for his own good. Being the logical man I know he is, I’m sure he would most likely … just laugh.

For most of the month, I feel pretty mellow. Nothing much bothers me and I think for the most part, I’m a pretty logical thinker myself. I don’t fuss about the little things and pretty much have the ability to ignore just about anything.

On the week of my period, however, I feel as if Mr. Hyde takes over Dr. Jekyll and the maniac in me suddenly comes out. The issues always seem to gather around the things my husband doesn’t do for me. In fact, issues that never bothered me before have a way of coming out, as if it was hidden away in my subconscious.

The note (or letter)

Today, I will take preventative measures and admit my crazy ways. I will write him a note, reminding him of what to expect and how I suggest he should handle it. It will go something like this:

Dear Husband,

It’s only a matter of days before I hit that crazy time of the month you dread so much. You know I will most likely find something wrong with you. So I’m writing this note to remind you of that time, in an effort to help you prepare yourself for it.

I’m sure you’re familiar with some of the symptoms by now:

  • Headaches
  • Increased Appetite
  • Breast Tenderness
  • Being Short with You
  • More Moments on the Couch
  • More Yelling
  • More Emotional
  • More Needed Sexy Time

So, dear Husband, I’m handing the week over to you. The results of those days will be entirely up to you. I recommend taking a deep breath and coming up with different ways to respond for that week. You’ve been through this multiple times and should know what to expect by now.

A few examples might help:

  • When you hear something you don’t like, you can choose to turn it into a fight by getting pissy about it or you can choose to bite your tongue, smile, and give me a hug
  • Your actions will most likely bother me, whether you’re there or not. So I recommend trying to do something nice for those times, like perhaps cooking dinner, giving your son a bath, taking your son out for an entire day, or something that could be inconvenient for you
  • Most of all, don’t turn down sex. It’s the absolute worst thing you can do when someone is in heat. It’s not just great exercise for both of us, but can potentially shorten the length of my period

So you see, Husband, it’s not a lot to ask. Just a little extra TLC …

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop is the proud mommy to little Oliver and wife to hubby. She is a resident of Laguna Beach and a big player in the web's large social media circle.

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  • Haha – I didn’t think I was a moody person but I have learned that I am during that time of the month. I think it’s worse the older I get…lately sometimes I shock myself at how snappy I can get lol

  • Heheh In June I had my period twice in the month. I can’t be upset. I was going on one year and seven months of not having it (perks of having a baby and breastfeeding). I didn’t realize I was moody until I told my SO that I had my period, and he replied “That explains it all…” lol Whatever!

  • Good thing I have nothing to worry when I have my period. But I guess writing a letter is a good choice. And a sweet thought too!

  • LOL…well, that’s a new approach. I enjoyed reading your letter, and your husband can’t say that you didn’t try. I loved your suggestions to him at the end…they made me chuckle.

  • That is an awesome letter. I need to write one to my husband! I think all men need to be able to read this too.

  • haha awesome open letter. Yes true i do have #Madrespect for women who have to go through this every month it is sort of a touchy subject and glad you’re talking about it here.

  • Very clever and funny at the same time . I feel the same way I am very emotional and sensitive when I have my period. I always give my husband a heads up so that he can prepare. he learn his lesson though! LOL Also he never forget to buy me a bar of chocolates because he knew I will crave anytime ha ha ha!

  • Every man should read this so that they at least get the idea! I can’t even count the number of times my husband had to deal with my mood swings and my cravings during my period. It’s a good thing they love us though and they do their best to comfort us.

  • Haha, that’s an adorable but very truthful note. I don’t think they will ever get used to us during our time of the month but hey at least they’re doing their absolute best when it comes to dealing with mood swings and cravings. I really think this is something we should all explain to our husbands.

  • This is great! I always feel so bad for my boyfriend when that time comes around… (which unfortunately, is soon!) It’s hard for them to understand but it’s also hard to help them understand. I think this letter idea is awesome!

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Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop is the proud mommy to little Oliver and wife to hubby. She is a resident of Laguna Beach and a big player in the web's large social media circle.