voiceBoks® - The Voice of Parenthood
stay-at-home mom

Stay-at-Home Moms Do Absolutely Nothing!

How many times has your significant other come home from working, shaking their heads or looking as if they are just completely annoyed? After the excitement of having him or her come home, you then wonder what in the world you could have done wrong that time to get that welcome home face.

stay-at-home mom

You then look around and notice the house is a mess, dinner isn’t cooked, and/or the kids are just out of control. You then realize, “wow! He thinks I’ve done nothing all day!”

What do stay-at-home moms do all day?

You’re so exhausted, but can’t help admitting to yourself that the day has come and almost gone and you’ve done none of the things you thought you were going to do when you woke up that morning. The stack of laundry is still overflowing all over the house and now you’ve got a husband with a face longer than you’ve ever seen before.

You silently break it down to:

  • 6:30 am – wake up, make beds, brush teeth, wash face, coffee
  • 7:00 am – make breakfast, feed people, get everyone dressed, pack lunch
  • 8:30 am – take kid(s) to school
  • 9:00 am – pick up toys, choose a room to deep clean floor, dust, start laundry
  • 1:00 pm – pick up kid from school and take him to a play date
  • 3:00 pm – get home, prepare a snack, start homework, get laundry from dryer
  • 4:30 pm – start dinner
  • 5:30 pm – daddy comes home

You spent about 4 hours cleaning up today, but your house looks like it’s just gone through a tornado by the time your husband comes home. Turns out, while you were in the kitchen, your rugrats were running around, making havoc!

How many times do you think you’ve said, “he just doesn’t understand!” when your husband gives you that look of disappointment. I mean, can you blame him? He thinks you do absolutely NOTHING!

As a mom, especially a stay-at-home mom, you can easily fall prey into the wounded hearts club of moms who feel unloved, unwanted, and unappreciated, because they feel their husbands don’t give them enough credit for the things they do on a daily basis.

As women, we are blessed with the ability to conquer all the blessings and chaos a family brings. At the same time, we also have the unbelievable gift of being emotional and having hormones that can create the most unusual circumstances in our own heads.

Moms, especially stay-at-home moms, most certainly DO NOT do nothing all day long. If there’s a moment to have our nails done or get a hair cut, even watch a movie, then we absolutely would love it, especially if sanity in the house is something that’s well appreciated.

So, if you feel as if your life is so mundane and just a repeat of picking up toys, cooking, cleaning all day, every day … know that you’re not alone. Sometimes people say, “misery loves company,” but it can be a means to bounce positive energy off of each other. The “love company” part can just be a great way to start up conversations with like-minded moms and potential friends.

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop is the proud mommy to little Oliver and wife to hubby. She is a resident of Laguna Beach and a big player in the web's large social media circle.

23 comments

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

  • I have been married 26 yrs, 4 kids. There were and still many days nothing gets done. I left a super job to become SAHM. Truly the hardest job in the world. Such a wonderful wake up post

  • Sometimes I think my husband thinks there’s a magic laundry fairy that cleans and puts up all the clothes. I’ve been making him help lately and now he knows better.

  • People have this perception that Stay at Home Moms live a better life than others. They have no idea that it’s just as crazy as working in an office, at least you get lunch breaks and day offs there! Lol. Thanks for the reminder that we’re not alone on this.

  • When I become a mum, i’m going to make my husband on his day off do all the things the mum’s have to do everyday with or without having work, so he can get a taste of being constantly busy x

  • I agree you don’t sit at home in fact being a stay at home mum is one of the most physically and emotional tasking job that you could take on. But of course you love it despite the exhaustion.

  • Well, the only way for him to see everything you have to do is for you to get sick and him have to stay home and take care of you and the kids – jump into the deep end of the pool. But here’s is a story about not knowing what you do. My husband would grab a cup of coffee for the ride to work and a soda for the ride home. So one of my favorite parts of the day was about 9pm I would take the dog for a walk – peaceful and relaxing. On the way back into the house I would stop and grab the coffee cup and soda can out of his car. One night I am closing the door to his car when he comes out to get something and says, “Oh you don’t have to do that, I’ll get that” – REALLY??? I do this almost every night. Where the hell did he think the stuff went when he got in the car in the morning and the cupholder was empty. Did he think it was magic?

  • I’m a stay at home mom and a work at home mom and thankfully, my hubby understands that I cram more into one day than he does into a week. I agree though – I often get asked “But what do you do all day?” and I want to tell people that they couldn’t keep up!

  • I’m a work at home mom and I feel you. It’s hard to balance things but you guys are the real heroes. I cannot do what you guys do. Maintaining a house, keeping kids safe and fed, these are just a lot of work.

  • I think by this day and age, most people understand that being a stay-at-home mom is one of the busiest jobs in the entire world LOL.

About Author

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop

Karlyn Bishop is the proud mommy to little Oliver and wife to hubby. She is a resident of Laguna Beach and a big player in the web's large social media circle.