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The Untold Story of the Bottle Feeding Mama

Every time someone asks me if I breast feed or bottle feed, I shriek a little bit on the inside.

Or, at least I used to.

It’s like there’s some untold ‘faux pas’ behind bottle feeding your kids. As if bottle feeding mothers are too wrapped up in the busy lives they lead to even nurture their own infant.Ummm… keywords: as if!!

The time it takes to make a bottle — let’s pretend I’m not a twin mom for a second — Yeah, so the time it takes to make one bottle and warm it up…

The money it takes to supply the formula, buy the bottles, and the nipples, and the sterilizers…

The patience it takes to know that you can’t produce milk ‘like a good mother should’, be constantly reminded of that by society, and still search high and low for the perfect formula because each one so far seems to give your baby gas…

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Bottle feed or breast feed, I’m not judging. I just wish I could say the same about the rest of the world.

Since it’s more common to hear the raves about breastfeeding, I’m here to share my story!

You’re welcome fellow mothers of the bottle!

All throughout my pregnancy, I was urged to breastfeed.

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I was ready, and excited to bond with my newborn babies through breastfeeding.

At 32 weeks, I was induced, and my baby girls were born. Obviously, at 32 weeks, they were premature, so they spent the first 2 weeks of their lives in the NICU.

Let me just tell you, those were the hardest 2 weeks of my life. Because they were outside of arms for so long, yes, but it was more to it than that.

After carrying my munchkins for 32 weeks and finally bringing them into this world, I only got to see them for 30 seconds!

30 SECONDS!

They were cut out of my belly (that’s the gist of a C section) and whisked off immediately. I wasn’t able to see them for the next 21 hours.

Not only was I sad that I couldn’t hold them in my arms (although Daddy could, and I was extremely jealous!!), but this meant that my chance to successfully breast feed was slipping away by the second!

I was not there for their first feeding. I was not their to get them to latch on.

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I was in a room, on the other side of the hospital, desperately trying to produce milk. And getting more and more frustrated as the minutes crept by.

Drop by drop, I was able to produce milk for my girls, and I was elated! Until, I realized that I would not be there to feed them. I stocked up on as much milk as I could before I was evicted from the hospital. (I was only allowed to stay for 2 days!!)

But, I was eager to get home and pump some more. Even though I couldn’t be with my girls in the NICU, at least they’d have their mama’s milk!

I was determined!

Sore nipples. Deflated boobs. But, my milk wasn’t coming in quickly enough. With two growing, hungry babies, they were out eating me.

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My dream of breastfeeding came to an end. My carriage turned back into a pumpkin.

Distraught and unhappy, I began my journey to becoming a bottle feeding mama.

On this journey, we’ve had plenty of ups, downs, and spiral turns, but there is one thing that bottle feeding has taught me, that breast feeding never could.

At the end of the day, the type of nurturing that your child receives doesn’t matter, as long as they are receiving it. The same amount of love and attention can be given to a bottle fed baby as a breast fed baby.

I had my heart set on breast feeding, but after I realized that it’s feeding your baby, not how your feed your baby, that is important I quickly started to welcome Similac and Enfamil with open arms!

It’s been six months, and my beautiful girls are as happy and eager as ever!

So, breathe bottle feeding mama. You are not alone, and you are not a threat to this society! Continue to do what you do, and be proud of it!

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Chelsea R

Chelsea R

Chelsea, Mommie and lifestyle blogger of Mommie and Wee, is a 22-year-young twin mom,

Lupus warrior, health enthusiast, and full-time foodie. She has a bachelor’s degree in Food

Management and lives to try and make this world a better place to be.

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  • I was a nursing mom, and I think it was best for me and my babies. FOR ME AND MY BABIES. You had to do what you had to do for you and your babies, and I think you’re doing FABULOUS. What works for your family, works. Bless you and those 2 sweethearts= no matter WHAT they eat, they sure are loved!

  • I hate that there so much judgement swirls around breast/bottle feeding. Every mama wants the best for her and her baby and it’s nobody’s business what that is!

  • I did both actually. My kids were all c-section kids and I actually didn’t see my youngest until the next day as well because I was so out of it with drugs. I did get to breastfeed in the hospital and did it exclusively until it was time to go back to work and then bottle fed her breastmilk since I pumped. As long as you’re feeding your child and taking care of your child, it’s all that matters.

  • I had twins also. I was unable to provide enough milk so mine were bottle fed. They were just as happy as other kids so nope… I don’t feel bad because of the choice we made to bottle feed.

  • Thanks for speaking out for mothers, regardless of how they feed their babies. As a society, we tend to want to mind each other business more than our own, and let’s be honest – why is it anyone else’s business how we care for our children, as long as they’re happy and healthy?

  • Totally agree that bottle feeding takes way more work! I breast-fed all my kids and the convenience of that is definitely real. It’s such a personal decision for anyone.

  • I disagree, I am a breastfeeding mama and I think nursing a baby is more work. The milk is thinner so baby eats more frequently, after the baby is born sometimes it is a struggle to get baby latched on and may wind up with sore and cracked nipples. I have been nursing for 9 years still am now – it is not easy by any means.

  • I strictly bottle fed and got a lot of slack for it. It was no one else’s business, but that didn’t stop them from telling me I was wrong.

  • I nursed my 3 children, but support your decision. You are the only one that can decide what’s best for you and your family. Us moms need to support each other always!

  • I imagine it was hard not being able to hold them at will those first two weeks. And I totally get the cringing over the question. I breastfed until the kids got teeth…then I stopped. When I tell people that, they act like I’m so selfish, lol. I know I’m not selfish, so I let it roll off of me. How you feed your child is a personal decision and no one else’s concern. 🙂

  • I never understood how people could judge anyone else. You never know the story of what is happening and have no right to judge, you know. I had to bottle-feed my oldest because I had major latch issues, but what-ever the reasons, it was MY life. ha! Thanks for sharing your story.

  • Thank you so much!! The hospital I was at made me feel like my little one would starve if I didn’t breastfeed him, and never mentioned formula as an option! Obviously it is, but when I wasn’t able to produce enough for him I felt like a total failure. Bottle feeding provides just as much of an opportunity to bond and be a mommy as breastfeeding does; I’m so glad to finally see an article that points that out. =]

  • Thank you for sharing your story. I am thankful that I could breastfeed and I am even more excited that more mama’s are actually attempting to breastfeed. Breastfeeding was pushed to the side for many years. I remember with my oldest daughter the hospital sent me home with formula samples just in case. And then when I had my older son four years later, they looked at me strange when I said that I was going to breastfeed. I can’t remember if they sent home samples of formula or not. So when I had my youngest, I was glad to see that there was more education for mamas on breastfeeding. Breastfeeding isn’t everything and it is the best but hey life happens and its not for everyone or every situation. I get that and don’t shove my opinions on breastfeeding to those who don’t want to learn about it. I do actively promote breastfeeding and encourage mama’s.

    • I appreciate your encouragement for mothers. You’re right, it is the most natural way to feed, I just don’t see why some people judge mothers who formula feed their children. But hey, I can’t change the world. Thanks so much for reading my post and sharing your comment!

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Chelsea R

Chelsea R

Chelsea, Mommie and lifestyle blogger of Mommie and Wee, is a 22-year-young twin mom,

Lupus warrior, health enthusiast, and full-time foodie. She has a bachelor’s degree in Food

Management and lives to try and make this world a better place to be.