If You Want Your Kids To Be There When You’re Old…

What approach does your kid have towards the elderly and aged people around you? The behavior exhibited by children is a reflection of their parents’ behavior and what they have been observing all this while. Your child’s perception is constantly evolving and he/she is in a continuous learning phase, whether they learn it directly from your words and actions, siblings or colleagues or the social media for that matter.

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The importance of teaching good values

A child’s mind can be molded the way you want it by instilling the right kind of morals and values right from the beginning. There was a time when raising your voice in front of elders, shunning them or refusing to do their work was considered a taboo.

Now, unfortunately teenagers have become so blunt and sometimes disrespectful that they blatantly show disregard to elders. Who is to blame? While the children themselves are to blame partly, ultimately parents can also carry the blame for the upbringing of their children.

Moral education is as important as making your child literate. Reducing your child’s chances of succumbing to societal pressure, may be the result of your ability to take control.

Helping your kids understand the importance of respecting their elders can be the ultimate step in the right direction. The earlier you try to achieve this, the higher your likelihood of being able to cope with stress.

It’s important to determine which values you want to instill in your child and then go about finding practical ways to do so. And soon you will reap the benefits of training your child in the form of reverence and respect that they pay you in your old age.

Set a precedent and be a role model

Children learn by imitation from a really young age. They prioritize and form opinions about certain things in life as per your outlook. What you give importance to will automatically be transferred to your kids. You might knowingly and intentionally teach them a lot of stuff, but what actually comes into practice is what you follow.

Your compassion and attitude towards elderly people lays the foundation of how your children will relate to them. If your kids see you making excuses to visit the elderly or taking any kindhearted initiative to cater to their needs, it is most likely that your child would not do the same. If you want your child to develop a soft corner for their aging grandparents, you need to devise a way to keep them in their company. Growing up with aging relatives can help your kid(s) learn to respect their reservations and private space.

You could probably be a role model for them yourself by visiting a senior home care institute in your neighborhood so that a positive habit is inculcated. You could even encourage your child to volunteer for these services, so that they know the joy and blissful feeling of being a source of comfort to elderly relatives.

Be clear about your values

Always communicate clearly to your child what you expect out of them. Sometimes we adults tend to get confused about we really need to perpetrate down the family tree. Do not let your child feel that there is some missing link or contradiction between your teachings and what you practically implement. Internal conflicts about which value is of foremost concern can out parents in an ordeal and also convey mixed messages to their children. Confused personalities often end up becoming rebels, understand your child especially in their teens and make them obedient children.

Placing parents on a pedestal

Children are taught right from the beginning that parents deserve unconditional respect and reverence and that they are a blessing from God and worshipping them is our utmost duty and responsibility. Our society is central to this concept and time and again it is re-established that parents deserve the highest degree of unparalleled dignity and admiration. A family psychologist reports that one of the primary parental concerns is disrespect, even more rampant than the pervasive mental disorder of Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD).

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