Yesterday my son and I had our daily visit to the park. It was surprisingly empty except for one little guy who showed up with his mom. He’s 2 but already a teensy bit taller than my little Oli, who’s now 2 months over 3.
Oli loves futbol (as my husband calls soccer) and so we go to the park and practice daily. As he was kicking back and forth, this little guy named Robert comes over and starts kicking the ball back and forth with him. They become instant friends. Only if friendship was that easy for adults, right?
As the two boys continue to play, Robert’s mom starts talking talking to me about many things, including a story about another little boy that Robert was playing with just a week ago.
I saw how well they got along and so I went over to talk to his mom and mentioned having play dates for them, if she was interested. After the long pause I knew there would be something wrong. She said she didn’t think it was going to work out and walked away just before she looked me up and down.
I hate to stereotype, but I live in a community where popularity based on type still truly exists. And when I say type I mean money, status, and well … you might know the rest. So long story short, you can’t just go up to moms and hope to start a friendship with them simply because your kids get along. That’s a “no-no” that I figured out when nannies at the park would give me questionable looks wondering if I was a nanny too, because I’m at the park with my son in the middle of the day during a week day.
Many kids struggle during school because they simply “don’t belong.” A few are placed in groups and labeled as popular or not. Sadly, it doesn’t seem to end just because you’re no longer in school. I’ve seen it in the workplace, in adults, even online communities.
Surely this does not happen in ALL parts of the world and I’m sure there are places where “friendly” just happens naturally. Here, where I live, people are segregated based on class and money. So is it money that makes you cynical? What is it exactly?
Remember the song, “Heal the World, Make it a Better Place?” Simply being kind within your own little communities could help towards making it a better place. Don’t you agree?